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to talk to you about truth. Not the loud kind, not the defended kind, not the truth that needs explaining, proving or even justifying.
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feel inside your body before your mind gets involved because if you're listening to this there's probably a good chance you already know when it feels and what it feels to completely override yourself time and time again. Welcome back to Reconnect Our Fire and for a long time listening to truth never felt safe to me
Truth always had consequences. It changed relationships. It made me stand out from the rest. Looked like I was always being the awkward one. The one causing problems. It often led to arguments, to disagreements, which ultimately led to rejection. But it activated the fear of being left out. Being abandoned again.
and it disrupted dynamics instantly. It asked me to leave things which I had felt quite comfortable in. Well, so I thought that I'd built an identity around. So I learnt very skillfully how not to hear truth. I learnt to talk myself out of discomfort.
justify why I had to do things that deep down inside I really didn't want to do. To explain away heaviness, to call intuition over thinking and to tell myself this is just how it is. And so many women do this. Not because they're disconnected but because at some point truth felt too costly.
Truth doesn't disappear when we ignore it, it goes underground. And it starts showing up often as tiredness, irritability, and often will lead to numbness. It's doing all the right things, but quietly feeling miserable inside. Sometimes it looks like staying in things that no longer fit.
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because leaving feels more frightening than actually staying. And after a while, you don't even know what you're avoiding, but you just know. You don't quite feel like you anymore. And this is something I've learnt, slowly, honestly, over time. I spent years believing silence kept me safe, and maybe for a time it did.
but not speaking or acting on my own truth actually ended up costing me more than I ever imagined it could. In my body, in my energy, and in how close I felt to myself. Because silence has a cost too.
Not immediately, not even dramatically, but gradually it does. But what helped me want truth to actually be a friend of mine again wasn't allowing me to be true in my alignment to what I wanted in life and how I wanted to feel with myself and how I wanted to feel around others. When you start noticing the difference
It's often when we want changes, but how do we know what is truth? And what is conditioning from our past? How do we define what they are? One thing I've learned, that truth is calm. And conditioning is loud.
Conditioning rushes. It says, you should. Don't rock the boat. This is just how it's done. Be a good girl. Just go along with the others. Just fit in. Don't stand out. Whereas, truth doesn't rush you. Truth speaks through sensation. It niggles you as you know you want to do something else differently.
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Truth shows up when we stand in it, like a massive relief, a pause of sense of knowing, and then things are suddenly more in alignment. I noticed when I'm not in my truth fully, alignment starts to feel heavy, feels like I'm pushing harder and less results appear in my life, my work, everything around me.
Because you'll notice truth has a flow, an ease of joyful feelings and it's almost like a smile of lightness too. It's where alignment is yours and things are happening for you rather than against you. Truth actually feels like an inner softening, a quiet sense of relief or sometimes even grief.
And the moment I stopped asking, does this make sense? And I actually start asking, what happens in my body when I sit with this? Everything begins to change.
Because listening to your own body is the very first thing we need to tune back into. Something that truly helped me was learning to respond from my body, not from my thoughts. My thoughts were very good at stepping in quickly. They could explain things, justify things, talk me out of what I was feeling. And I realised those thoughts, they weren't wrong.
They were just old parts of me, protective parts. Parts that actually learned a very long time ago that listening to truth could cost me something. So they learn very quickly to override it. My body though was always honest. It spoke in sensation. Whether it was that clenching, tightening in the chest or heaviness or subtle pulling back.
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And before I could rush past that or try to explain it away to myself and tell myself it didn't matter.
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This feels really important to name. When we consistently don't speak or don't honour our own truth, our body often moves into self-protection. Not because you're weak, not because something is wrong, but because your body is trying to keep you safe.
can look like tension being held instead of released, emotions being suppressed, hidden, rather than gently processing and feeling them at the time. A nervous system staying in a kind of like a low-level alertness. It's not like a crisis but never fully at ease either. You know that feeling.
You can't quite shift it, but you know it's there. It's like an undercurrent. And over time, that ongoing effort can show up in your body as a persistent stress or anxiety, a fatigue, feeling exhausted and burnt out. And it will definitely show up as digestive issues.
Often there's headaches and muscle pain, jaw tightness or heaviness in the chest. Sometimes it shows up more quietly. Maybe feeling disconnected and numbness or thinking I'm here but I don't really like myself.
And it's not because I'm saying truth is dangerous, but because holding things in requires energy. And the body was never designed to carry everything silently. It was never yours to carry this long either. And you now, well, gonna have to create something safe inside for truth to be placed down.
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A bit like unloading that heavy rucksack you're carrying full of rocks. How long do you need to carry it for?
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So whilst I did the inner work, and I'm not as caring as much as I used to.
I could feel its burden and its heaviness was crushing actually my entire reality of what I truly wanted rather than what I felt I had to fit into anymore. The inner work wasn't about pushing past my fears or disappointments in life. What I learnt was it was actually creating safety. It was learning to say quietly inside.
I know you're trying to protect me and I'm safe enough now to feel what's true. And that kind of changed everything. Not forcing it, not with a positive attitude that you try to keep going, but most of all by giving it space.
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What else I noticed which really did make the difference is very hard to hear truth when you're always alone with it. Especially if you're used to being the strong one. The capable one. You know, the one that holds everything else up. The one everybody else expects to hold everything else up. Whereas truth just needs gentleness.
It also needs witnessing and it needs a nervous system that isn't braced all the time. It can't show up when you've got an absolute braced nervous system. A safety is required to hear truth.
That's what I've learnt and this is why I've gone forward with what I've gone and created. That's why I created Witchy Woo Circle. It's not therapy, it's a grounded gentle space to slow down, to land back in your body and just reconnect with yourself. There's no fixing, there's no pressure to share, no expectation to perform.
We use gentle reflections, creativity and grounding rituals to help you notice what's actually going on inside. And many women tell me it feels like finally, oh, excelling, know, letting go. It's like coming home to themselves and remembering parts of themselves they've forgotten. And so often, without effort, truth begins to surface quietly and clearly.
And sometimes listening opens a deeper door, a path that wants more space, a pattern that's already to be understood, a moment of, don't want to keep doing this alone. So that's where all my one-to-one coaching and hypotherapy and now my online membership coaching comes into play. Because...
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I don't even use a coaching, it's not about fixing you, it's about helping you remember. Helping you to remember that you can reconnect to yourself, to your own inner authority. You can learn to trust yourself again. We work with the body with those protective parts, with your nervous system safety. So truth doesn't feel overwhelming, it starts to feel a relief.
So many women come to me saying, you know, I just don't know what I want anymore. I feel disconnected. I feel lost. I feel agitated. I'm more anxious than ever. But nothing's really changed. And almost always, truth is always present. And it's most probably because it's just been buried under years of coping. So this work isn't about becoming somebody new.
It's about remembering who you are underneath all of it. So if something in you has softened while listening, if your body has responded before your mind's caught up, you don't need to rush, you just need to know this. There are spaces where your truth doesn't need explaining, where it isn't rushed or judged and where it's met gently.
Richie Boo circles exist just for that. And so does my one-to-one coaching when you're ready to go deeper. But you don't need to know what comes next, just notice what feels true. Because here's something I didn't expect. When I started listening to my truth, even in the smallest ways, something else began to return, which was something I didn't expect. And it was like this inner lightness.
Not because life suddenly become perfect or things got so easy, but because I wasn't carrying as much inside me anymore. When you stop fighting yourself, when you stop explaining your way of how you feel, you make space. And when you make that space, joy starts to come back in.
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And it's not like a forced joy or forced happiness. It's not performative, but it's simple things. Feeling more playful, laughing more easily, wanting more colour in life, music again, appreciating the little things again, the creativity coming alive, and sometimes even the silliness. Truth doesn't make you serious, it actually gives you permission to be more alive.
What I noticed was this. When I stopped spending so much energy holding things in, overriding myself, being on guard, bracing all the time, that energy had to go somewhere. And it went into curiosity, creativity, lightness, fun, joy, into moments where I found myself thinking, God, this feels good.
And just let that be enough. Truth reconnects you to the parts of you who know how to play. The part that doesn't need a reason, the parts that follow what feels good in your body. The part that isn't always productive, but it actually is really deeply alive. And this is something I see time and time again.
with the woman I work with. The moment truth feels safe, joy starts peeking back through the cracks and pushing that door back open.
No different to the witchy woo energy that's created in the circles. They're grounded, they're real, but they're also warm, creative and playful. Because when you're truthful in a safe space, you don't just heal, you remember how to be yourself.
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And this is where I gently share what I'm creating in this world right now. Because once truth feels safer, once joy starts coming back online, it really helps to have places where that can be lived, not just thought about, but real simple connections. And that's why Witchy Moo Circle begun exactly as that.
Connection, conversations, warmth, curiosity. Which you move circles across Hampshire and Surrey and they can be a very gentle way of meeting like-minded souls. We gather for a drink, a chat, oracle cards and most of all just a genuine connection. There's no pressure, no expectations, no need for anyone to turn up and do anything.
But sometimes it's just that and honestly that alone can feel deeply nourishing. And alongside that I've created Wichiboo Sanctuaries, again once a month, gatherings with a gentle creative focus. And they are simple creative projects each month, not to produce anything compressive, not to get it right, but to be in the present moment, in your hands, in your energy, in yourself.
You don't create for anybody else. You don't explain it and you don't need to analyse it. You just simply enjoy creating. And again. And again. And how refreshing that feels. And what the women tell me is just it gives them permission to just be again. To feel so light, to feel playful. And it nourishes their soul. And that's why these spaces are so important.
And they're growing. I'm opening new venues throughout Surrey and Hampshire. And it's been beautiful to watch just how much women now craving exactly this kind of grounded, real joyful space. Nothing rushed, nothing performative, just time to be. All the upcoming events are listed on Eventbrite under which you move circle. And I also link everything in the show notes below.
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but you can also contact me directly, Eva Instagram at Witchywoo Circle, my Facebook group, Witchywoo Circle, and just bear with me as they're new, so the contents are a little limited at the minute, I'm just starting them up. But they're there, they're open, and they're aware to reach out.
So if something in you feels a gentle, curiosity, then maybe that's your truth asking you to step up. You don't need to know whether you want to circle a sanctuary session or deeper support. You can just follow curiosity. Truth doesn't need a plan. It doesn't need a place to land. It just needs to be heard.
These spaces exist so you don't have to remember that you are alone because you're not. To join me at Witchy Woo Circle, come along or even drop me a message. So until next week, take care of yourself.
