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the hidden meaning behind the people in your life. Welcome back to Reconnect Her Fire. And today I'm speaking to those of you who are ready to pause for a moment, to reflect, to feel, and dive in and have a little deeper knowing about yourself if you're ready. Because this is something most people don't really stop to notice.
but something I've been working on the last few days and really noticing and actually making a completely different, well, let's say choice in life. Because once you see this, you can't unsee it.
We brush past it, we tell ourselves it's often it's random or that people just come and go. But what if it's not random at all? What if every person who has been in your life and is now, your friends, your co-workers, your lovers, were there for a reason you've never fully seen before?
So I want to gently explore this together because this is what I would call quite deep reflection work. So have you ever noticed how different your friendships have been over the years and how each one brought out a completely different version of you? What if I told you none of that was random?
We've had all different kinds of friends, haven't we? If you look back, I mean, especially in my twenties, we'd have the one that you would particularly just to go out and party with. The one that you would go shopping and overspend and have fun with, but you particularly went to that person to do that activity. You'd have the friend that you would happy to sit in silence with, that the other friends...
Joanne (02:17.794)
weren't interested, they wanted to be active or doing something. And you probably had that friend who brought out your entire wild side that was quite, that gave you some of your best memories, by the way, as well. Nothing to feel ashamed of, but the real wild one that you really did take risks and push yourself. And you probably had the friends that felt calm, grounding and safe. And something I noticed about myself,
Maybe if you're really honest, you didn't actually mix them. You met them separately because each one held something entirely different. What if those friendships weren't random at all? What if each one reflected a part of you?
that was trying to be seen, to be held, felt, expressed, loved, accepted. The playful part, the free part, the chaotic part of you, the quiet part and the adventurous part and the part that just wanted to feel something again.
And maybe some of those parts have been pushed down before, made to feel that you were too much, too loud, too needy, too different. Some life, gently or even if it's extremely loud, brought people into your world who could hold those parts for you.
until you were ready to accept and hold them yourself.
Joanne (04:14.636)
Because when you did, something changed. You didn't need certain friendships in the same way anymore. Not because anything was wrong. Not because anyone did anything wrong. But because something inside you actually settled, accepted, it loved, it integrated.
So if you're noticing now, let's say that your circle of friends just seems smaller, different and quieter, can you actually notice and be honest enough to say that you could feel the possibility that this isn't loss, but more like alignment?
I want you just to notice and look at the people currently in your life. Now, I don't want you to go in with this with judgment or fear or let's strip them apart or try to make sense of it all. No, let's stop right there. What I'm asking is just notice the people currently in your life. But I want you to notice them.
like
Literally, you were standing as an observer.
Joanne (05:35.256)
You're watching them from a distance with you. I'm to ask you some questions and you might want to journal these because this is exactly what I did and it really opens up even more self-awareness. What are they reflecting back to you right now? Go on, be honest. Be brutally open and honest. Don't tiptoe. And who are you becoming in their presence?
Now that's the real eye-opener. Drop the mask. I'll say that one again. Who are you becoming in their presence?
something even more powerful. What parts of you are ready to rise next? that one really did get to me. Because that next level of you, of your life, won't just come along from doing more, pushing harder, working to the extreme, trying to prove yourself. Do you know where it comes? It comes from becoming more of yourself.
Did you feel that? Did you feel your body exhale then? It comes from being more of yourself. Sometimes it felt, well with me, it felt like a door opened. Not just for understanding, but for almost a relief. Because when you see it this way, something softens inside. That's how I felt. Can you feel it?
Because not every friendship needs to be analysed or fixed or held on to, does it? But we like to, don't we? Because that's human conditioning. Not every shift means something has gone wrong. Because sometimes, this is how I saw it, it simply means a part of you has come home.
Joanne (07:36.28)
So let me reflect this back to you.
in your energy but with bit more clarity and flow and ease. So think!
that you could understand because we've all had different kinds of friends haven't we? You know, the ones you've partied with, the ones that you would go shopping with, the ones you'd go to sports with or hobbies and activities or concerts and the ones that would be happily just sat silent with. The ones that you just went on holiday and that was it with. The ones that brought out and allowed your wild side. The ones that allowed you to be...
calm, grounded and just yourself.
Joanne (08:29.602)
because I'll be around you at the minute.
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Have you noticed that they're around you at the minute or have you got different people around you? And what I said earlier was just to notice and to see which ones they are. Because if you notice...
and you're starting to question that actually they haven't changed in a while. Maybe that's a reflection that you haven't risen or changed in a while because something I heard the other day really did stir something in me and it almost said it really clearly in my mind, definitely a download. And it almost said, if you haven't changed your friends in a while, you're not growing.
And I kind of sat back and thought, who are you to say that? But actually, how correct is that?
Joanne (09:33.26)
So how long have you had your friends? Are they rising with you? Or is it because you're just sat there too comfortable and not wanting to come out of that comfort zone for whatever reason?
Joanne (09:49.624)
Just want you to have a think because today's podcast is quite reflective.
So I'm leaving space for you to make a choice and a decision. But this is just my observations. So it doesn't mean it has to be yours. But there is some truth in there, isn't there?
Joanne (10:16.718)
Because sometimes we don't need the friendships that we felt we had to hold on to just because they were there. Sometimes it's good to let them go because that's the reason the whole time we've accepted that part of us now. And that part of us isn't reflected in somebody.
but a new part shows up. So suddenly a new friend or a new work colleague that you connect with and it's like a magnet. You connect to them, you're not sure why, but actually they start reflecting back to you who you are in that moment. And again, when you outgrow people, it just means you're moving and you're growing. So this session is really about asking some deep questions and just noticing.
Joanne (11:13.07)
Because often those people who came into our lives are unknowingly holding the parts of us we didn't feel safe to hold ourselves. The part that needed to speak up, the part that longed to be seen, the part that wanted to stand out but felt afraid, and the part that needed to say this isn't enough for me anymore. I know that's true for me when I left my ex.
because now I look back with a different approach because actually he was there to wake me up for me to stand up and speak my truth for me to come to the well I hit rock bottom but for me to come to the brick wall to say actually no I deserve better and I'm not being treated like this anymore
And I'm not afraid anymore to speak out regardless of fear of rejection or fear of being alone. Because inside they were so crippling. every friend's relationship doesn't matter, does it? If you actually give it space and look back.
And believe me, if it's a recent breakup, please don't try. It won't work. You're not going to be in the same space as you would be in two or three years time. And this is a this is literally a time to look back over the last. If you've recently broken up, this is not a good time to reflect because you aren't going to be in the mindset or the heart set to be able to and.
this isn't the right time. This is to look back at friendships further.
Joanne (13:01.282)
because people do leave for whatever reason. Dynamics change, don't they? know, those connections that you made, they just fall away. Not because you've done anything wrong, but often because something within you has returned. And I know this can feel complicated, especially for those experiencing pain. But when you look back,
and I'm asking you to look back gently, you might begin to see even those ones that hurt you showed you where you needed to find your voice, where you needed to stand up for yourself, where you were ready to want more and you chose better. Not because what happened was okay, because I'm not saying that at all, but because you were ready to see yourself differently.
So instead of judging them or even judging yourself and beating yourself up, because that doesn't help, just sit with this for a moment. What did each person awaken in me? Let's turn it around to a positive. Let's see what it is. What did each person awaken in me that I wasn't aware of before?
and again some more journaling cues here and if it feels right for you you might want to journal these.
Who were they in your life? How did they show up and when? What did they reflect back to you? And what part of you were they quietly holding until you were ready?
Joanne (14:59.618)
So if something in this has stirred within you and you feel that quiet pull to understand and gain more self-awareness about yourself, reconnect her fire journey is open. This is my coaching baby. This is my main coaching programme which has had the most phenomenal results. It's a space where we gently explore who you truly are.
beneath the roles, the expectations, the layers that you've had to carry, where we begin to unmask the part of you that may have been holding on for too long and you know where they are. And some you won't, not because they're wrong, but simply because they're ready to be seen, maybe understood and softened. And so together we reconnect you back to your inner knowing, your intuition, your self-trust, your self-love.
This is for the woman who feels it. That she's ready to rise, ready to experience more ease, more abundance, more prosperity. Not by becoming something new, but by returning to who she always was. So if something inside you is saying, yes, don't ignore it, that's your soul. That's your soul nudging you a direction. Message me now. All my details are in the show notes. Let's begin your own journey.
But until next week.
Take care and appreciate the friends that you have because they are all holding parts of you until you're ready to carry them.
