Joanne (00:01.346)
Welcome back to Reconnected Fire and thank you so much for being here today. I want to talk about something today that might feel a little uncomfortable, but it's bloody powerful. Following last week's podcast where I chatted about truth, our truth, being true to yourself and what it is in your own reality.
Because truth really opens up your own curiosity and helps us find our way back to ourselves. Don't we? We start walking our own path. We speak our own words finally, because we feel we can. And our own thoughts change and become more creative and positive for the pathway that we were always supposed to be on.
So today I want to talk about when your words don't match your actions. And I'm not saying this pointing fingers at anyone else. I'm saying it because I've been looking and picking apart myself recently. And you know those moments where you say, that's it, I'm done. I am done.
giving too much. I am done not putting myself first and I'm done tolerating less than I feel I deserve now. I'm done saying I want something but they're not truly committing and this is where it can often hit a little bit hard because we always say we want things but are we being true to ourselves and actually doing or even preparing ourselves for this? Because you know what it's like, the week goes by.
and you're still doing the same thing yet again. That's not necessarily about motivation as we know. A lot of it actually has to come down to self-trust because when your words don't match your action, something very subtle starts to happen. You actually stop believing yourself, not consciously, but actually it starts to become very quiet.
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very tiny little ways that we start to do this that we don't actually notice the bigger effect. It's a bit like me when I tell myself, you know, I want to lose weight, but you don't structure your week. You don't plan your meals or make sure the fridge and cupboards are full of exactly the same foods that you need to eat a healthier diet.
You could tell yourself you're building that powerful business, but you end up hesitating to be fully visible, whether that's showing up in real life or even social media. You tell yourself you won't accept mixed energy from people because you feel confused. But you're the one that makes the excuses. You show up even when you feel that you really don't want to. You override those feelings again.
And I've realised something yet again this week. How much confidence isn't actually built by those big declarations we make. It actually starts to appear more when we do what we say we're going to do.
even when no one's watching. actual fact, I would say especially when no one's watching. Because every time you break a promise to yourself, no matter how small, you teach yourself that your own words don't mean much. They don't count for much. So how can you or even the world around you take you seriously?
if you don't take yourself seriously in the first place. And this isn't me being harsh. It's about alignment, integrity. And I don't mean the moral integrity, like being the good person, being the good girl. I mean energetic integrity. When your inside voice says one thing and your actions actually follow.
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That's powerful. That's magnetic. And that's grounded. And I've noticed more in my own life recently, there are places where I've grown and places where I've drifted. I've outgrown. It's easy to say I want to be in the best shape of my life. It's harder.
to consistently eat the right foods, go to the gym, lift weights, walk daily with the terrible weather that we've been having, get to bed on time. I mean, gosh, that just seems to be going out the wall even more at the moment. And it's easy to say I'm building something extraordinary when it's harder to show up when engagement is low or energy is low and the days are busy. And it's easy to say I won't tolerate crumbs anymore.
But actually it's harder to sit in the discomfort of walking away sometimes. And you start to question and break yourself down. So one of the ways I tend to see this now, which makes sense in my mind and it might help you, is words are light. So imagine them like little feathers floating around. But actions are heavy, grounded, weighted.
And this is exactly why the spaces you choose matter. Because alignment isn't just something you do alone. Let's say you're in your kitchen, you just woke up, you're deciding you're going to change. It's actually strengthened by the rooms you sit in. If you're surrounded by people whose words float higher than their actions,
you actually start thinking that's normal. But when you sit in a room of women who are actually doing the work, who are showing up for themselves, who are building, who are healing, who are choosing differently, something activates inside you. That's why I've created Witchy Woo Circle the way I have. It's not a chat club, it's not a place to talk about change, but it's actually a space where women realign.
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where your words and actions start to meet because there's something hugely powerful about being witnessed in your own growth. There's something powerful about saying, this is who I'm becoming and then being supported to act like her. Richie Woo isn't about showing up being perfect. It's more about being honest.
It's about closing that gap.
And in the few weeks it's been running, I've already watched women walking on shore and walk out a lot clearer. Not because we waved a wand, but because we anchor intention into action. That's the huge difference. There is something that happens in the presence of aligned people that cannot be manufactured alone.
You can go out and, you know, I'm a huge book reader, but you can read all the books, you can do all the journaling, you can meditate, and you can set the goals. But you can also sit in a room with women who think expansively, who speak honestly and move intentionally, because that's when something shifts at a nervous system level.
Let me explain, your standards rise without being forced. And that's not me going on about motivational fluff, that's psychology. Human beings regulate off one another. And our brains, since we are born, are wired for mirroring. Our nervous systems collaborate to our environment.
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And you know I talk about this all the time. Our beliefs are reinforced by repetition, especially social repetition. So when you spend time around women who speak about growth instead of gossip, women who protect their boundaries and honour them, women who take action even when they're uncomfortable,
and exhausted, women who are building, healing, evolving, your subconscious absorbs new norms. And here's the truth most people ignore. You don't actually rise to your goals, you rise to your environment. If you're surrounded by people who normalise procrastination,
excuse smallness, don't they, and resist the tiniest of changes, your brain starts to match and register that as normal and safe. But if you're surrounded by women who normalise courage, movement, integrity between words and action, your brain registers that as possible.
So mindset really isn't always created the best way in isolation and being on your own. It can actually be more effective and reinforced when we're in a community, when we're in a group.
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Because every single room carries a frequency. Small, large, wherever they are. Some rooms lower your ambition without you even noticing. Some rooms make you explain yourself more than you wanted to. Some rooms make you shrink a little so everybody else feels comfortable. I bet you now...
Some things are going through your mind of where those rooms have been or are still. But aligned rooms do something completely different. They actually steady you. You don't feel the need to perform. You don't feel the need to dilute yourself and stand down. You don't feel the need to prove.
your worth. Instead you start feeling anchored and when you feel anchored your decisions change. So let's be honest it is much harder to sabotage yourself when you are seen by women who actually are more committed to growth and I don't mean that in a pressure way or
my gosh, I'm being judged and criticised and I've got to keep up with the Joneses. It's not like that. But in a witnessed way. There is accountability in alignment. When you say I'm working on my health.
and the people and women around you are honouring theirs, unconsciously and consciously your integrity strengthens. When you say I'm stepping into my power and you're surrounded by women who doing the same, you'll find that those excuses weaken because the standard shifts and standards quietly shape your identity.
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Being with those like-minded women also helps regulate your nervous system. And what am I always saying? Until we've done that, of the work isn't going to work for us in the ways that we would love it to. Your nervous system is everything. So when you're in rooms where you feel emotionally safe, your body leaves the fight or flight and it steps down.
It's no longer bracing or looking for things to run from. And when you're in that regulated state, you actually start to calm your nervous system in a way that allows you to think more clearly, more positively. You access creativity, your imagination starts to work for you. You access your own truth. You access your own honesty.
Growth requires safety. And safety is amplified by a lined company. There is another layer too, the belief transfer. When you spend time around women who truly believe in expansion, not talking about it, actually living it, their beliefs transfer.
Confidence is actually pretty contagious. Just as we know self-doubt is as well, and fear, they're also contagious. Scarcity spreads, doesn't it? So does abundance. I mean, gosh, what's going on with the world at the minute? And if you tune into any of the online social media, your fear levels are off the roof.
But if you came off of those social media platforms, even two weeks, you'd probably notice your whole life around you would remain a lot calmer because you're not in that heightened state. So if you're constantly in spaces where, say, let's say money is feared, it's spoken down about, having too much is greedy, growth is...
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resented either by jealousy or mocking and shaming others who have it and just because you wish you could and so ambition is then mocked and knocked about you will internalise that narrative even if you think you're immune. So if you are consistently in spaces let's say where women support each other's growth
where success is normalised and not feared or judged and where growth is actually celebrated, even the smallest, your ceilings rise. Not because you force it, but because your identity expands to match your surroundings. There is also something deeply powerful about being known while you are growing.
When women actually witness you going through these transitions, these milestones, even these small things that you accomplish, you're actually less likely to retreat back because this is how our brains work.
Isolation protects us, our old identities, where when we're in a new group or we're in communities, they actually challenge them. So when you're in that room with women, you're actually doing the work, it wakes something up inside of you. And the beautiful thing about aligned connection is this, it doesn't actually feel competitive. Suddenly you feel it differently. Suddenly you actually trust and feel supported.
It kind of feels a bit odd to begin with. It feels steady. It feels like you're being encouraged to rise. Not comparison. You actually end up leaving feeling clearer. Your decisions are a bit more clearer. You actually feel a bit more decisive because you're more grounded in who you're becoming. You start to stop over explaining yourself.
Joanne (16:39.65)
You stop apologising for your own ambitions, your own goals and desires, where before you barely mentioned or felt you could speak about them. Because you stop negotiating your worth. When you're in a room that's also aligned, it reminds you of who you're becoming.
That's why not every space will do. Not every room is growth orientated. It's not going to be, it? Not every group is aligned. Not every gathering is expansive. Some are comfortable and some are, you know, convenient. Some are repetitive and some we have to sit in.
Some feel comfortable because you've always gone there and it's just what you do, it's a habit, you know, it's convenient, it feels cosy, you you fit in, you don't have to stand up, you don't have to stand out, you just, it's convenient. And some keep you there because that's what you're expected to do. But there's a difference because growth-orientated rooms, they're intentional, they're conscious, they're selective, they carry energy.
And the longer you actually sit in aligned spaces, the more your internal dialogue changes for the better. You'll start noticing the old I can'ts start to move to, well, I'm learning something different and maybe I could, maybe one day start to go, oh, well, I'm moving now. So maybe this is coming quicker.
and you won't have so many of the what will they think, you'll have more of well this is who I am. It is about choosing frequency, because as you grow and evolve, your environment must evolve with you. Otherwise, well you know what happens, your progress just slows down, it goes back. You can't build a future self.
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in a room that reinforces, let's say, your past self. I know this from having to sell houses that I was in relationships where the negative energy was so negative that actually I knew I had to sell the house because the energy was still there.
and I had to move out of there to show myself worth, but I wasn't going to stay in that stagnant energy anymore and I needed new, I needed bigger and more expansive and this is what I've done time and time again. So I'm speaking from experience as much as I'm speaking from truth.
That is why like-minded women, they grow, they accelerate growth. There's no other way to put it because shared standards create that movement, create that upward movement. That upward movement creates momentum and that momentum becomes identity. And your identity is what becomes your destiny. And suddenly you're not actually trying to change or force it.
you've become different, this is the power of aligned community. It's not hype and it's not noise, it's alignment. And aligned women actually move differently. So if you're feeling that gap, you know what I mean, between who you say you're becoming and how you've been moving, let's say, because we don't need motivation. We know that burns off very shortly.
Let's just keep this as simple as it is. You just need alignment. That's why, which yiru exists. Because it's not just a circle, it's not just a recalculation, it's where you start to return to yourself. It's where the noise starts to calm down. It's where your nervous system steadies. It's where your own intentions get grounded.
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into that real step formation that you are going to master and take each one feeling supported. It's not about height and it's not about dramatic transformation. It's just consistent, embodied, in-depth growth. And if you're ready to stop announcing and start actually becoming, then you know where to find me. Because this chapter isn't about talking bigger.
It's now about moving differently. We're in the year of the horse, the fire horse, so we have been given and gifted the most beautiful energy to help us move towards what we want this year more than any other year. So why not grasp it? Why not settle back and actually welcome it? Let's enhance it. Because, well, you know.
and the rooms you enter now, they're either going to keep you comfortable or they're going to help you grow. Because what you will circle is more than you expect, it's aligned. And aligned women move. So let's say the universe, life, your body,
It all responds to weight, not intention. Intention is beautiful, but let's say repetition is what changes things. And ask yourself honestly these questions. Where are your words out running your actions?
Where do you talk bigger than you actually move?
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Where have you declared something but not structured your life to support it?
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Don't beat yourself up. This is for everybody and everybody can work on this. This isn't something that some people have mastered. This is going through daily life. You could ask these questions and there will always be something we can motivate ourselves with. Because sometimes we don't need another course or another book.
or another supplement or even another strategy do we? Yeah, sometimes we just need to stop announcing and actually start creating and building small promises kept daily. That's it. Things are really this simple. If you say I'm going to prioritise my health, then prioritise your health.
book the appointments, prep the meals, protect the work time, do what you're going to say you do. And if you say to yourself, I'm done shrinking, then stop shrinking. Speak the thing out, charge the rate and hold the boundary because here's the truth, your nervous system actually feels safest.
When you are consistent with yourself. Not perfect, because we aren't perfect. But the biggest word ever is consistent. You don't need to overhaul your life in one dramatic week. Yeah, that's not gonna work. That's actually another way of how we outrun things. You just need alignment.
One commitment, keep one simple commitment, yeah? And once you've got that one in place, add another and another tiny promises to yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back at the end of the day if you've achieved it. Don't mock the small congratulations you give yourself. They are going to be the most important.
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If you don't congratulate yourself on the small things, your mind won't know how to build the bigger ones or bring them to you. So I'll always say this, every small win counts. Give yourself a little cheer and a little well done every time.
And over time something does shift. You actually start to trust yourself little by little again. When you do trust yourself, your presence changes. You actually walk slightly different. You'll speak differently too and you'll choose differently. You don't need to convince anyone of anything because your actions are speaking.
So today I'm not asking you to make bold declarations because that's just not what I'm here for today. I'm asking you to just choose maybe one area where you know your words haven't quite been backed by the actions that you wished for. But just pick one and then just gently tighten it quietly. Don't announce it.
Just do it, because your future really isn't built on what you intend, it's built on what you repeat. And repetition creates identity. And if you repeat the discipline, you become disciplined. And it's a bit like saying if you repeat avoidance, you become avoidant. If you repeat courage, you become courageous, don't you? It's whatever.
So your actions are always voting for the woman you're becoming every single day. So who are you voting for?
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Are you voting for the woman who says she's ready or the woman who acts like she is? Let that sit for a moment.
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There's no shame, just awareness. And remember, you're not behind, but you can't keep saying you want expansion if your behaviour is prioritising comfort. And believe me, as you're listening to this now, this really is literally the universe saying, this is your time to make the changes. You often hear that you're not behind.
But then again, if we've heard the information and it's clear and we understand it, then actually it's time to take one tiny step towards it every day. Because if we want to expand, it actually requires friction, movement, growth. That actually needs consistency. Most of all alignment requires truth.
And truth isn't loud, remember what I said last week in the podcast. It's just repeated quietly daily. So today, let's close that gap between what you say and what you do. And just watch how fast your power comes back to you. Because when your words and your actions match, you don't need to convince anyone of your worth. You feel it.
Every cell in your body will confirm it for you. You'll breathe it. You'll wake up in it. You'll excel it. You'll just be it. And that itself changes absolutely everything.
As I spoke in last week's podcast.
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our truth and why it's so fundamental for truth because without truth nothing changes.
and it does have the most impactful outcomes and changes we crave in our daily life. So notice what's comfortable and what's expanding and what's truthful to you.
Because one simple change today causes a reaction. And if we're consistent and we create those new habits, the whole day, the whole month, the whole year changes. Our identity changes. But the more we're in groups of women of whatever groups you choose to be in, and they're all working with their own truths and they're growing, so are you.
just as much if you're still sat in containers in rooms where they're gossiping, talking negatively, not really interested in growing. That's where you'll be in a week and a month and a year. So it really is a choice. But if you're listening to this now, no doubt you know exactly when to start this. And there isn't any other time apart from now.
So why not give it a go? Because you really don't have anything to lose. So if you'd like to know more, you're more curious, then please drop me a line at joe at witchywoocircle.com or visit my website witchywoocircle.com where you can sign up to our latest newsletter where all the information of everything I've got to offer, all the latest tips.
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because you're worth it and there is no better time than now.
But until next week, just remember one habit can change your entire life for the better.
