Joanne (00:01.966)
Today I want to talk to you about something people don't always explain when they talk about manifesting and bringing things into your life. Because as we know manifesting is one of those words now that is just thrown out there, used in so many ways. Yeah. Because we often hear, don't we, how to manifest. Use your vision boards, your affirmations.
call things in, do your rituals, do your meditations, imagination, everything. But there is something else that I noticed that actually was the biggest revelation in understanding what manifestation really was about. Because my experience taught me something much deeper. Because manifesting...
actually required me to become somebody completely new entirely. And it didn't exactly happen overnight, because it was a time in my life, not that long ago, around four years ago, four to five, when everything started to feel absolutely draining. I was getting up every day.
doing the same things, the same routine, going to work. It was almost like you bumped into people and you said the same things every morning. I was literally just repeating the same routines day in, day out. Can you relate to that? I remember thinking, is this really it? I've done everything I should do. I've got the mortgage, I've got the job.
But inside, I was left empty. I was fed up. And at the thought of continuing this until I was what? 67 or 70, whenever the UK pension age, because it would have risen by then, would have allowed me to retire, really got me to question, who am I?
Joanne (02:26.072)
when I was stood there and I literally was thinking is this it? Am I gonna live like this? I literally crumbled inside. Now I loved parts of my work. I worked in the NHS and I was supporting the mums, the babies and the families and that mattered deeply to me. That gave me good sense of pride and I loved it. I love helping people and that is who I am. That is part of who I am.
But something inside knew I'd actually outgrown that role probably several years before and it was holding on to the job rather than the belief that I was being my true self anymore because I had a mortgage and I had bills so the job paid for those. The job wasn't growing. It wasn't given me any opportunity to expand money-wise.
My life wasn't growing. Nothing was really changing. And financially there was very, if any, room left for any changes. But I remember thinking one day something happened that became a real turning point for me. Because we were all called back into the office. New management had really taken over. But we all got treated and spoken to basically like children.
micromanaged and I haven't been sitting there thinking I'm done I'm not running back here like somebody who can't think for herself or know what's best and it wasn't anger initially
It was clarity. And in that moment, I realised something really important. It wasn't just a job that had become too small for me. It was the identity I'd been living from. You know, the one, the woman that stayed safe, did what I was supposed to do, followed the rules. Society, the woman who believed security mattered more than her own truth.
Joanne (04:40.984)
You know, the woman who thought she had to continue doing what she was supposed to do, to please everybody else and to fit in. When I started looking honestly at my life, I realised something else. I've spent years dreaming about different possibilities and outcomes, but every time a dream appeared, which I was really good at by the way, I used to love dreaming and I still do, my imagination is wild, but I would shut it down.
with those statements that come up and say, well, I can't really afford that. That's not realistic. That's not for someone like me. So the dreams just vanished and disappeared. And life stayed exactly the same. That pattern repeated itself over and over, like it does. Not until I started training as a hypnotherapist. And that's when everything began.
to shift for me because I started learning just how powerful our beliefs really are. You know the beliefs that we carry about ourselves because they are what shape our habits, our decisions, our behaviour, our actions and our reactions and ultimately,
the whole life that we are living and experiencing right now. Many, a lot of those beliefs aren't even ours. They were created by other people's expectations, their opinions, their fears. So when I began doing the inner work, I realised something really different.
And it started to feel really sticky and actually quite difficult to recognise just how little self-worth I truly had. I had spent so many years caring for other people and making sure they felt seen and supported and their dreams and desires came first and all their emotional needs were met. But I had never really learnt.
Joanne (07:02.04)
how to show up for myself in that way. That realization, that changed everything. Because once you can see how much your beliefs actually shape your life in that way, you realize something powerful that you can and have the ability to actually change them.
And as those beliefs begin to change, your life begins to change too. That was the beginning of rebuilding my entire identity, life. I left the job. I sold the house I had owned for over 20 years. It gave me the security that gave me the peace of mind. And I stepped away from that life that once felt safe.
Not because it was easy, but because I knew I couldn't keep living a life that no longer felt true to who I was becoming. Have you ever done anything like this before when you know you just can't continue living a way that you have done before?
Because that is where I really began to understand what manifesting truly was. Because manifesting isn't just asking for something new. It's becoming the version of you who can naturally hold the life you desire. Because every time you grow, every time you challenge an old belief, because every time you step out
Of what once felt safe, maybe that's the job, the relationship, the house.
Joanne (08:56.79)
your identity starts to expand and life begins responding to that. One small example of this happened when I found the house I live in now. And this is a part where manifesting becomes really interesting because once I realised my life was reflecting my beliefs.
I had to start asking myself different questions. Not just what do I want, but something deeper. Who do I need to become to live that life that I want? Because the truth is the life that you truly want already exists. There are women living it right now.
The version of you already lives it.
The woman with the freedom that you so crave, the peace that you want, the financial life you want, a freedom of never worrying or having to find money again because it would naturally be there. So the question isn't whether it's possible. The question becomes who is the version of you who naturally lives that life?
Joanne (10:21.89)
How does she think?
How does she speak to herself?
And how does she spend her time?
Or does she believe she deserves?
And sometimes that question can feel really uncomfortable because it shows us the places where we're still playing small. The places we're still hiding. The places that we're still holding onto our limiting crippling beliefs that really don't belong with us anymore. But that's not something
Joanne (11:08.31)
to sit there and weep over or feel bad about. That's actually where your growth begins. Because the moment you become aware of those patterns that you repeat, and not until then do you have the power to then realise that you can change them. And that is what personal growth really is.
It's not about becoming somebody completely different. It's about slowly returning to the woman you were before the world told you what you should be. The woman who believed things were possible. Who trusted her dreams, her desires. Who didn't yet have all the fear and limitations placed on her.
and she hadn't made up the stories to keep her safe by then because that version of you is still here. She hasn't gone anywhere, she hasn't disappeared. She's simply been waiting for you to listen again. And when you start listening to your true voice, everything begins to shift.
I had a clear picture basically in my mind of exactly what I wanted. A peaceful home surrounded by fields and trees. Nature. I love nature. I've got to be surrounded by it. And ideally, pheasants in the back garden. And that would have been my dream home to have.
and peace and quiet and not the usual noisy neighbours and I don't want a dog barking 24 7 like I used to do. So I had quite good hopes but realistically knowing that I would have to probably change some of this. So I start looking. That evening I noticed a house that sort of matched exactly what I'd imagined.
Joanne (13:18.134)
So I rang up the agent in the morning who told me he'd only just come on the market and I booked the first visit that day. And within 24 hours, it was mine, done and dusted, sealed. Everything I had created in my mind had suddenly appeared in this house. Even the interior had everything I'd felt and thought about and...
Didn't over need, but actually it was all there. And the reason it felt so, well, honest and natural was because something inside of me had shifted. I started believing I was worthy of living that life already. Now, can I honestly say that fear still doesn't appear? Of course it does. It will come up.
every time I try to change or improve my life or want to add or expand. Because that's what it's there for. Every time we step into something bigger, fear will show up first. Especially like the imposter syndrome appears telling me, you know, who do you think you are? And then the money one loves to come in the background going, well, you can't afford that. And if you don't do this, you're not going to get this. And that one loves to sit around for a while.
and the fears naturally come up whether this will work. Is this another great idea or is this another dead end Jo? But I know those voices too well now. But these days, when it appears, when I hear these voices coming back in my mind, I kind of smile to myself because I've actually got to a stage of knowing they're not me. That's not my truth.
because I've seen this pattern so many times and I've fallen into it. I've been in there in tears, fearing it all and trying to find other ways to do things and actually, when you've done it a few times, you'll come back to the realisation. It wasn't how much you were doing, it was whether you were doing it from your truth and from your heart.
Joanne (15:34.668)
Because fear often shows up when you're stepping into your new identity. The in-between stage where your mind is trying to keep you familiar. It loves familiar. That's safe. And it wants to keep you comfortable where you're probably are at the moment. It doesn't want you to stretch. It has no interest in your future, feeling happy. All it cares about is keeping you alive.
but you're rising fast. And so these feelings were really getting loud this time. And there's something I remind myself of whenever fear gets louder than it, well, should. Do you ever remember what you were worrying about five years ago today? Probably not.
And do you remember what you were afraid of, let's say four years ago today? Most likely not. So do you remember the things you were procrastinating on about two years ago on today's date? Most definitely not. So why does it feel so big right now? Because the truth is every single time
you face those fears, you're actually moving through them. You always do. And if you didn't, you wouldn't.
would you a...
Joanne (17:16.918)
If you hadn't have moved through them, you still would have been where you were all those years ago. But you're not, are you? You've grown, you've changed. You've become a new version of yourself, a new identity has come through. That's what this journey is really about. Life.
isn't just about reaching that destination that you crave or whatever it is that you want to bring into your life and manifest the car, the house, the job, the more money. It's not about even the success or the relationships that you dream of having. The real magic is in who you become along the way. A stronger woman, a wiser woman.
A woman who trusts herself more. When that shift happens inside of you, life begins to change around you. So if you're listening to this today and something inside you is whispering, that you do want more. You want more freedom, more peace, you want more abundance, you want more money, you deserve it. More truth in the way you show up for yourself every day and the way that you live your life.
then the question isn't just about what do I want. The deeper question is, who do I need to become to be already having that in my life right now? And what small step could I take today to start becoming her? Because the moment you give yourself permission to grow, everything
starts to shift. And if that's where you are right now, if something inside you knows you're ready for that next version of yourself
Joanne (19:19.726)
then maybe this would be interesting for you. I've created a six week programme called Trust Yourself Again. It's a space where we gently begin shifting the patterns, the beliefs which keep you holding back, the doubts, the worries that have kept you hidden and small. So that you can actually reconnect with your own truth.
your own intuition. Step back into your confidence and know life is actually working for you. Because if that speaks to you, all the details are in the show notes. So until next time, remember this, don't wait for life to change. Take one small step towards the life that lightens you up. Because the woman you're becoming is already there waiting for you.
