Joanne (00:00.674)
Welcome back to Reconnect her Fire. Thank you so much for being here today. I want to jump in with today's subject because recently I've had a lot of people asking me a very similar question. And that is, how do I know what my intuition is and what do I believe are my beliefs and how do I know the difference? In other words,
The voices in your head, are they yours? Is that your intuition? Is that your own guidance? Is that source? Is that the programmes running in the background? Because over the last six months, well it's been going on four years, but I would say over the last six months, I've come to realise just how much I already do trust myself. I take quite bold decisions now.
And I don't hesitate because I believe truly that if I do guide myself and allow myself to listen and take the action steps, no matter what they are towards, if my intuition is guiding me towards something, even when it feels ridiculous, scary, so...
mad sometimes and it goes against everything that I've ever accomplished, believed before. They have been the most monumental, satisfying, soul-filling decisions and outcomes that I've ever experienced in my entire life. And how did that start? Well that started just over four years ago.
And I've done a podcast on this before. When I left a relationship that really wasn't ideal and the minute I made that decision I had no idea I had changed my whole identity because I wasn't playing small anymore. I'd actually made that choice there and then. I'd ended it. I wasn't going to be put up with being treated like a doormat anymore.
Joanne (02:21.567)
I wasn't going to be lied to every day, I wasn't going to be cheated on, wasn't going to be treated like something that just didn't have any value. When the whole time this was me not believing I had any value or anything to offer. So I was just going along with what I believed at the time I had to do to keep that relationship.
Well, my, my. So when you make those bold jumps, even if you wait to your push to your limit to do it, what you're actually doing isn't creating friction or problems. You're actually just saying, I am fed up with this version of myself and I need a new identity. So you instantly change, you instantly level up. Now,
Some people can actually level up and then keep levelling up. But then if you keep going back to that relationship and I didn't, you're almost going back to the old identity each time. So every time you say yes to yourself, every time you make a choice that's fulfilling how you want to live,
your identity gently shifts time and time again. And you'll get to a stage that you can't go back. You've almost opened that door of Pandora's box, whatever you want to call it, and you can't go back because you just stand there and look back and go, what? No, I'm not allowing that in my life anymore. I'm not going to get treated like that. I deserve better.
So whenever we want things in our life, we want things to change or in our mind, we go, well, I'd love to have more money. I'd love to have the opportunity to travel first class. I would love to be surrounded by the most amazing relationships that I've never experienced before. Who wouldn't? Well, that's okay having that in your mind. But do you trust yourself to take an action step towards that then?
Joanne (04:40.535)
Do you trust yourself to take in maybe something new that you've never done before? Because we don't change unless we change things. Your environments are literally dictating your current beliefs and your outcomes. Take a good look around where you've been this week, this month.
they will be a direct reflection on the people around you and the money level that you're reaching every month of your current beliefs, of what you believe you're worth.
Yeah, I know, I know. You're going to be sitting there now, aren't you? Going through, racking through, thinking this all can't be my fault. I'm not saying it's your fault, I'm just saying you're choosing it. Yeah, that's a hard one to swallow. I didn't like that one either. But now I know it, there's no point wasting time tiptoeing around this, is there? To be fair. We get how many years on this planet? It's a really quite short life.
that we're in bodies that are going to be functional and living our best life. So why not take a chance? Why not lean into that intuition a bit more? And why not take bold steps daily towards things that bring you what you truly do deserve and what you want? How many of us are in this nine to five routine still? We're just plodding along, managing, scraping through, but feeling
everything around us is getting tighter and more controlled and things getting taken away from us and we're not quite the person we were even two to three years ago. But if you trusted your intuition, if you actually listened to it and you gave yourself that space, that time, you went out and did some things that you enjoyed and that little voice, the quiet one, because your intuition is quiet, it's very subtle.
Joanne (06:47.211)
and you've got to spend time listening to it. It's not the loud voice in your head screaming out your fears, telling you to sit down, shut up, get out of there. They're your fears, they're your old beliefs. That's the programming, the conditioning, the stories you made up.
But that's your mind just trying to keep you in that familiar energy, the frequency of comfortable of nothing changes. You're safe. Let's keep you there. How boring. Had enough. Because you won't even be listening to this podcast if you were in that stage anyway. You're only listening to this podcast because you want to change. You want to improve your life. You want the new version of you to come knocking at your door and say, I'm going to take you into this new level of money, of wealth, of abundance, of health.
of vitality, of excitement, of new people, new environments. That's the truth. But nobody wants to listen to their own truth. Your truth matters more than anybody else's. Your truth matters more than anything else around you. And when you start becoming in alignment with your own truth,
That is when the universe, the world starts reflecting it back to you and not a moment before. Now I've not really spoken so much. On the spiritual side, the journey I've taken in the last five years from not being in, if you mentioned the word God, I would have cringed, I would have left the ring and I would have probably given you a face of thunder look.
because it just was not a word I would ever use. I didn't feel comfortable with it. I truly didn't want to believe it. It was something that was so far-fetched. But I also had a real dislike to that word. And if you spoke to me yesterday and I was telling you that connecting to the universe, source, the God was your most crucial indication that you're on the right path,
Joanne (08:59.341)
There was a whole new Joe who stood here today. It was five years ago. And if I go back and look, I just have to really go, wow, when did that change? When did I decide this was important to me? When did I see that it was actually creating what I wanted? Because it's been a very gradual process. And when I tell my clients to make a journal of things, this is why.
because I think it's really good because if you journal even once a week of what's gone on that week you've got some record to go back to to actually notice and appreciate how far you've come. This week's been International Women's Week and my god you've really got look back and just appreciate.
How wonderful you truly are. How much you've gone through, survived. How much you're going through and you're still showing up for yourself every day. You're still making big decisions for you. Even when you have no idea of the outcome. Even when they're scary. Even when everyone else is against you. Even when family and friends turn on you because they don't like your ideas. You're not sticking to what you're supposed to do. You're stepping out of the box.
Isn't that magical? I mean I was quite an outgoing little child and by all counts of it I think it was screamed out of me and with fear that I couldn't be that child anymore.
from parents that just didn't understand me or themselves. So growing up, I learned to become the one that fitted in, not to stand out, because I didn't want to be rejected, I didn't want to be picked on, and I certainly didn't want to made a fuss of, because that kind of attention never got me anything good. So I blended, I was almost like a chameleon.
Joanne (11:00.267)
I just did what I thought I had to do. I played the system. I did what I believed was how you received love, attention, affection. I did whatever it took. But it wasn't until, what, four, just over four years ago?
that that will change because I decided, do you know what? I'm not playing small anymore. I am fed up with this. My inside could not take another. My soul was being absolutely crushed. It wasn't a choice. It was happening. But over the last few years of actually saying, if I'm not listening to anybody else because they're not really where I want to be myself,
Nobody was inspiring me at the time. The teachers that started to come in my life when I started asking were, but at the time everybody around me, I just wasn't into their frequency. I didn't understand. I was seeing, feeling, behaving differently, but a lot of it had to do with spirituality.
I started to truly understand there really is something bigger around us that we don't have to hold everything ourselves, we don't have to fight everything. And the more I went into this, the more I studied it and read up on it, and books like Wayne Dyer and, you know, Abraham Hicks and all of these books that are freely available, these were the ones that I was getting drawn to. Well, now I can see I was being gifted.
which really got my curiosity to dive deeper and actually want to know what my intuition was all about. You know, you often heard women say, my guides tell me this, my guides, well, who are they? Where are they? Let me come forth. I was really quite, quite open to all of this. But I understood the more I lent into this kind of work,
Joanne (13:07.915)
the more anxiety and fears were loosening and moving out of my way. Because I actually realised it wasn't just me having to create my life again. Because I did, four or five years ago, I left the job, I left the relationship, I left the security, I left all the pension, you know, the...
almost shits and words of an expectations of all my friends because suddenly I was doing something so out of their imagination it frightened them. So they didn't really even know how to be around me anymore. It was almost like, well, you've got your life now and I've got mine. We're on completely different frequencies.
It made me isolate myself. It made me almost stand like in a desert. Everything's dry. Everything's gone. But you've got no idea what direction and there's not even a signpost or something to lead you in a way. I never felt so lost in my life. So I almost had to come back to my own intuition. I had to start listening to my needs.
There wasn't even anything around me that was distracting me or guiding me. It was almost like literally being in the middle of a desert and everything's the same. The wind's blowing, there's sand and dust and you've got to move. But there's no way you know which direction's right. You've just got to trust yourself that you can do it.
And something I heard this week really did make me sit up and say, I know you've forgotten the name of the lady. It was on, I think, one of the podcasts. But she rightfully said, we've almost stopped using our intuition that we would have used daily, even through sat navs. Because we just get into a car, don't we? We type it in and off we go. We don't even think about it.
Joanne (15:17.599)
out that long and before then you had maps which you couldn't really read because you were driving or you had the partner next to you trying to give you directions out of these big massive maps but really you would have known and worked out how to get there by yourself have you ever tried it have you ever got into a place now without using a sat nav
we've actually started to lose the ability to even trust ourselves or even tune into our own inner guidance which is always there and the more you do it the stronger it gets and it's a bit like a muscle if you're not using it you're gonna lose it you never lose it but you're just not going to be able to trust yourself you're always going to be in fear because you're always looking for external validation you're always seeking somebody else's opinion that doesn't actually connect with you
It doesn't bring you the truth, the happiness that you need. You just use it to get through this week and then you're back to square one again of fearing your decisions, unable to make a choice, scared to come out of the comfortable zone. Because that isn't going to be easy because there's no one there to hold your hand or guide you. Whereas if you lean into your own intuition,
and you take a moment just to say, what is my voice today? What if I took one step and did something I enjoyed? Because if I look back over the last four years, this is exactly how I did it. I started to go back to what I loved doing as a child. Simple things, being out in nature, feeding the ducks.
And it's as simple as that. And I get so much enjoyment. But I was doing this weekly now. I actually consciously made a decision because I didn't know what else to do. I didn't have anyone there telling me, guiding me. I didn't trust myself as well as I felt I did back then. I'd made decisions to be with people that just had no intention to be with me for the right reasons. So how could I trust myself?
Joanne (17:34.168)
But I did know one thing, I just had to find things that made me feel a bit easy, a bit light, a bit happy, a bit more, I can just let my mind sit and rest. And the more I did this, the more my soul was speaking back to me and then giving me something else that I could do that could make me feel a bit happier. And then suddenly I started to trust those little steps a little bit more. And every day,
I'd actually start tuning into them and I might just do a bit of meditation because that just helped my mind have space. But all along the whole journey over last few years has been me trying out and they haven't always come forth with the right answers but they've taken me down a path that I might have met somebody that then did take me on that right path and that journey.
So it's never your intuition is going to give you the exact route in one straight line. It's going to take you down routes that you're going to need to learn a lesson, that you're going to need to find out more about yourself, that you're going to experience. And they might be good and they might be bad, but they are all part of your journey that you need to take.
So when I often hear from my clients that say I'm just too scared, I've given up trusting my own choices anymore, I understand totally what that is. And I know exactly how to get through that, step by step, day by day.
Joanne (19:12.471)
So when was the last time that you fully trusted yourself and you acted on it and you actually saw the results?
Well when was the last time that you just couldn't even take that step into the unknown because that was too scary? So the business that you might have hasn't grown. You haven't shown up for yourself in the ways that you would have loved to. And you're not living the life, the authentic life that you were here to have because you're too scared to move in that direction. Life doesn't have to be like this. Every day we make a choice.
So what are you doing to step into intuition and who are you listening to?
It's simply sitting with yourself for a few minutes a day and just tuning in. Feel your feet on the ground. Take a few deep breaths. Put your hand on your heart. Reconnect to who you are. You're a soul having a human experience. Your energy. Energy is always moving. It can go backwards, can go forwards, or it can sit and go stagnant. Bit like a pond without any way of moving.
and a stagnant pond stinks. And in the end, it creates death within it. And you're not here for that, because we all guaranteed at that one point and we don't want it yet. We want to be living. So what can you do today to listen in, tune in to your own intuition?
Joanne (20:55.351)
You're going to have to take some steps. So what direction do you take? And by the way, I'm going to give you a really good example of this. When I was learning this, I had to do things fast. I had voices that would give me an answer immediately and I had voices in my head that would then give me this whole list of reasons why I can't do it or shouldn't do it.
I understand they were in the boardroom of my fear, my doubts, my self procrastination. The boardroom of doom as I call it. We're all giving their standing up, shouting out all the reasons why I shouldn't do something. But at very beginning, I heard one little voice say yes. Before the boardroom of doom stood up and all gave their opinion. So I went towards it.
Because often your intuition is very fast, very quiet, but it's the very first thing that you hear in your body that you feel before you get that rattle of continuous thoughts coming up that just spill all the negative reasons that you can't do it.
So act on the very first thing that you notice, even if it's a bit out there, even if everybody around you disagrees. Because another thing I've learnt, and I've learnt this well, is that when people start to comment and say that what I'm doing is nuts, or what I'm doing just doesn't fit their box, or do you really need to do that?
I instantly know I'm on my right path because I was never supposed to be following theirs. They've got their own life and their life isn't where I want to be. And even the people I look up to now that I would love to be in their life, my pathway to get to that kind of level of living won't be the same as theirs. They can't tell me how to get there because now I truly trust myself.
Joanne (23:14.625)
to say and I'm willing to fall, I'm willing to trip up, I'm willing to keep day, well it's a bit like a tree of all the branches, you don't get growing up, the trunk just doesn't go up once with one twig does it? There's a thousand branches with a thousand twigs going in the most weirdest and wonderful directions and none of them are wrong, none of them have failed and none of them
are really the right direction or the wrong direction. They are what they are and that's what life's about. You take these paths that lead you but there will always be a reason for those paths for you to come up against a brick wall and maybe you've got to redirect, you've got to rethink it or you might have a lesson there or you might have a blessing.
You might have to meet somebody along the way that actually introduces you to somebody else. You might have to overspend on things that you feel aren't appropriate, but actually it's giving you the power because as we know, money isn't real, it's energy, and money needs to be continuously flowing. But whatever reasons that your life is where it is at the minute is because of the choices you've made.
So if you're feeling that stuck, if you're feeling that agitated and fed up and just confined with expectations and shoulds and words, then maybe it's your chance now to step out of that. I've created a six week journey.
which we dive deep into finding out exactly what it is that's holding you back. What patterns, what beliefs, and we move them and break them down. And we help you move in the direction that's actually gonna bring you the clarity, the confidence. But first of all, help you understand and tune in to your own intuition, your own inner guidance that's always there.
Joanne (25:34.271)
waiting and telling you where you need to be. Because when you trust yourself, the world becomes a lot easier place to live. Your confidence, your self-worth, your self-esteem rise. You will then magnetise and attract what you want rather than what you don't want. So if that interests you, the programme is called Trust Yourself. It's online.
They're one hour sessions with me and we do it really gently and I'll hold you hand as we go through the stages. But all my notes, in the show notes, all the details are there because life has a way of showing up and...
bringing us to what we need when we ask. So if you're still here now listening to this now, there's no coincidence you haven't heard about this just for the sake of it. It's because there's a part of your soul telling you and giving you exactly what you need. But you still have to make that action step. And remember your thoughts and your mind.
take a while to catch up to your truth, your soul's truth and your intuition. So until next week, take a chance on you and prioritise your needs because until you do it, nobody else will.
