Joanne (00:02)
Why investing in yourself changes everything. Welcome back to Reconnect Her Fire podcast. I'm Jo, a wealth and identity mentor for ambitious women. And today I want to talk to you about something that has completely transformed my life. Investing in you. Now when I say investing in yourself,
Most people, yeah, immediately go and think about money. The first thing that comes up in the mind. Or about courses or coaches or programmes or events or beauty treatments. But what I've come to realise that investing in yourself has very little to do with money.
is actually a decision, a monumental new choice that you just made for yourself. Often the first time you ever invest in yourself and you make that decision that says I matter, my dreams matter and my happiness and joy matters.
The life I want can come true because for years I didn't invest in myself, I invested in everybody else. Common thing for women to do, I invested my time and attention into everybody else continuously. My energy and care went to who else but not me.
Because as it came back to me, I was always last on the list. And you probably can relate to this with family and everybody else that demands it from us. Maybe you've spent years looking after everybody else and now it's your time. Now it's realising that you do matter because making sure everybody is okay is great.
But if you're constantly doing it and sacrificing your own needs, there's the problem. Because you know there's more in your life that you want deep down. You want more freedom and joy, more opportunities, financial freedom. You want to experience more, more of you, more of what you can do for others as well. Because this is what I've realised.
Nothing changes until we decide we're worth changing for. Until we trust ourselves, until we make that first monumental step to up-level our life.
because I was fed up. I never had enough money or time to do the things I wanted. I was working NHS full time. I was repeating the same amounts of money coming in, the same outcomes every day, the same stress levels, the anxiety was still there because I never had enough of what I truly wanted to do. Until I took that leap of faith that was right for me, that stretched myself,
found the money bit by bit and I jumped in because it was the best decision of my life ever. And that was the catalyst for me sitting here today talking to you earning more money than I ever could imagine. Working hours I choose to work with who I choose to work with and changing women's lives for the better.
Because that's all I wanted to do. That is what fulfills me more than absolutely anything that I've ever done before. I crave my work. I love my life. And it's possible for everyone of you here listening or even watching on YouTube. The only thing you have to do is simply say yes to you.
because nobody else is going to do it for you. It's not their job to do it for you either. That was the biggest shift for me because for years I always felt like I was going to get rescued or I genuinely believed that if I worked harder or if I learnt more or got another qualification somehow life would magically change for me. But it didn't. And I was left in the same place I always got left.
Because the biggest thing keeping me stuck wasn't the lack of knowledge, it was my beliefs. The beliefs that said I wasn't enough, I wasn't worthy of success. The beliefs that kept me small, hidden, and believing that I couldn't deserve what I wanted. The beliefs that said other people mattered more than I did.
the beliefs that literally said, well, if you want to do something for yourself, that was selfish, Jo. And until I become aware of those beliefs, nothing really changed because self-awareness is the most vital thing for any change. Once I could actually understand my beliefs and see them, I could challenge them. Once I could challenge them, I could start to replace them.
And that's when everything starts to change for the better. Not necessarily overnight, but step by step, day by day. Decision.
after decision of trusting myself creates a new belief. I started investing in books. That was the first thing in learning. Then I retrained into hypnotherapy, EFT. I invested in personal development. I invested in coaches and support. And every time I did, I leveled up.
But something really interesting was happening. I wasn't just buying that information. I was becoming somebody new, a new identity, a new version of me. I was becoming the woman who believed she was worthy of investing in.
I was showing up as that woman and that's a very different energy and a new identity because every investment that you make sends a message to your subconscious mind that simply says this, I'm worthy and I want this more than ever and my mind then goes to search for this.
And then my mind works for me in helping me create it. So it's not listening to the old beliefs anymore. It's starting to look and find the evidence of the things that I believe I'm worthy of. But one of the things I've learned the most is that people, don't really struggle because they lack the resources. That's far from it. Not true at all. They struggle because they don't believe they're worth the resource.
They don't believe they're worth the change.
So that's a deeper conversation you're going to have to have with yourself. Because when you truly believe your future, including now, matters, you'll naturally start finding ways. You'll start looking and become a magnet for opportunities you didn't see before, which help you make a different choice, don't they? A different decision, which leads to a different action, a different behaviour. And that's when life begins to move in the direction that you want it to do.
do because one of the biggest lessons I've learned from successful women is this they don't wait until they feel ready they invest before they're ready they ask for support before they feel they've got the finances they take the action before they're ready every time
because they understand one simple thing, that their own growth happens through the movement, through taking those bold steps, not from sitting in fear and waiting. That's exactly what I've seen in myself before and in my clients. The women who create the biggest transformations aren't necessarily the smartest. They're not the most talented necessarily.
or the most confident to be honest. They're simply willing to trust and choose themselves. They're willing to say enough is enough. I'm ready for more. I'm ready to stop living with these old beliefs and I'm ready to stop playing small. I'm ready to stop settling and the moment...
They do that and they tell themselves that. Everything opens up. New opportunities come.
They suddenly get new ideas, new creativity sparks. They find themselves new relationships, new levels of confidence. Wealth and prosperity seems to come close, not because the world around them has changed, but because they change their view, their perspective. And what brings me to a question I'd love to sit with today? Imagine this. If you truly believed you were worthy of the life that you want,
that big dream, what would you do next?
What support would you ask for?
What would you stop tolerating?
And be honest, what would you finally say yes to?
because I don't believe any women are lacking ability, the capability. I think they're lacking the permission. Permission to want more, to ask for more, to trust themselves that they're worthy of it and just to choose themselves for once. And that permission to stop settling, to trust they have their own knowledge within.
Because the beautiful thing is you don't need anybody else's permission. Even when you feel you do. I'll say that again. You don't need anyone to give you permission for what you want to do, for what brings joy to you, what lights you up inside. You can give it to yourself today, right now. One decision, one belief, one step and one tiny action
for you. That's all it takes to start changing the whole direction of your life. Imagine what that would feel like if you if you did that. So if you enjoyed this episode, I'd love you to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes of Reconnect Her Fire. And if you'd like support and you're ready to create.
the new beliefs, the new identity and create that self-trust within that you need for your next level of wealth and visibility to create that success. You're going to find details on how to work with me below.
as my group women's coaching program is open and ready. And if you're ready to say yes to yourself, drop me a message But until next time, just remember this, the life you want isn't waiting for you to become somebody else. It's waiting for you to believe you're worthy of it.
with much love and thanks.
