Jo (00:01)
Welcome back to Reconnect Her Fire and I'm Jo, a Wealth and Identity Mentor for female founders. And today I want to talk to you about what most people avoid. And that is the conversation on when you are building your business, how it actually looks, how do you start a business? But most of all, the real truth of sometimes when everything seems to be going wrong,
and you've still got to be the one standing up smiling, presenting yourself, getting on social media and almost pretending like nothing's going the way that you would wish it to go.
And why I'm telling you this is because I started my business several years ago and it didn't really take off the way I first imagined. In actual fact, it kept growing because I was adding more courses, I was training, I was learning more and more modalities at the time. So my hypnotherapy business really did take a back seat because I was on a journey, a self-discovery journey of who I was and what I was becoming.
what I truly wanted and what made me happy because I don't think I ever felt that before I just followed the plan that everybody else did I just fitted in. So I suppose the last few years have really been the rediscovering the peeling back of what is it that lights me up? What was my true purpose and passion? I'd retrained I'd left the NHS role but I hadn't really discovered the deeper meaning
to why I'm here and what I'm doing. And I suppose today I want to go into another way of actually seeing what happens without it leading to the fear, the over worry, the anxiety, the stress that I hear so many female founders talk about. And it is from the outside world, it really does look like a disaster. It looks like a shit show gone wrong because basically
everything that you've built up is almost going to vanish because there's no clients suddenly. The money dries up and you're left holding everything, paying all the bills, keeping everything going but there's nothing coming in and so your imagination, your mind will go back and replay all the disasters you've ever had. It will. That's its role.
and it will try to keep you in the identity of the version of you that feels lost, that feels useless and feels abandoned and feels confused and hasn't got a clue how to get herself out of this. And that's where female founders either rise or they fail and they let go. And so often you hear of businesses collapsing and I swear it's at these times where
People aren't aware of why it's happening and what's happening and that's the biggest difference because when you understand why and what actually is happening you see a whole new perspective and you can change the whole directory of where you're going and you can stand still. You're not rushing around like a loony trying to fill in every minute of the day because you suddenly believe that being busier and more promoting
is going to bring anything different. actual fact, that can be the one thing that pushes it away. The laws of the universe work for us and there's no point ever trying to work against them because they are the laws of the universe and they don't change just because we say they do.
So the stage that I'm in is new identities about to reveal, but the old version of me, even from the last six months, is quite comfortable doing what we're currently doing. So what am I doing at the minute? I'm coaching. I'm on YouTube. I'm on podcasts.
But even I'm feeling a little bit, well, I want more. And what do I want more of? I want more presence. I want to be on stages. I want to speak to larger groups of women to enhance their life, to show them that they are the ones that can attract it. But what happens is that mind is going to go back to all the limiting beliefs that you still hold, that you don't feel good enough or worthy of success or you don't
feel that you can actually stretch this far.
And because we don't know and we love certainty, don't we? We absolutely love to know everything. And often if we don't have that certainty that everything's going to plan out, that everything's going to be OK, we sit back down. And that's why we don't grow. That's why the businesses don't grow and they end up stuck and actually becoming a bit resentful because you know deep down you're meant for more. You know your business is
meant for more but something is just holding you back and you feel stuck but that is the ability to understand your own awareness about you about your belief systems about your values about what it is you truly inspire to be not where you are now but where you want to be what would you be and what would you become to have
the things that drive the fun, the joy in life with you. It's never all about the material things but yes, they are the bonuses and yes we should go after them because they are the things that give us the feelings that we've been craving for. I'm not saying it's the be end because often it's not because once we realise we'll continuously be chasing the material things.
but they help us on the journey. But more often than not, we forget we are the ones that has the most powerful ability with our own imagination and being able to create what we want and let go of what we don't. But you know, you know exactly what happens. You jump in and you think of the worst scenario, the money running out in the bank.
the things you can't pay, the bills can't get paid. So you step in now and you jump in with fear. You jump in reacting to the current reality that's being shown to you from the five senses that you've currently got.
But when you work with your imagination in a way that you can start to visualise your outcome becoming the version of you that can hold the wealth, that can hold these moments of fear, that doesn't panic and starts imagining a better outcome and trusting herself just a little bit more every day. And if it comes to ask you what is the worst that could happen and really get down to that nitty gritty of what it
that you are so scared of happening and is it really as bad as it happens and does it ever really happen? How often has that worst nightmare ever come true? You know the ones that you always think of whenever you want to do something new you never think of the good you always think of the thing that can go wrong or what this could cost you. What if it failed?
And be honest, has it actually ever happened? Probably not. Less than 1 % actually happens. So if you can now understand that those nightmare thoughts, the ones you're dreaming of...
that turn you at three o'clock in the morning upside down that's making you go and question everybody because you've lost the self-trust in yourself. You're not listening to your own intuition. So you're out. I mean, look at Chat GPT and all the different Claude The amount of people and that includes myself.
which I've noticed recently that we ask so much in the end, we don't trust ourselves as much as we could do. We don't lean into our intuition and it's there for that reason to give us our truth. Because if every time you want to make a decision and you're asking somebody else, family member, or you're leaning into AI just to bounce that idea back, you are telling your brain,
you don't trust yourself so you always have to find an answer outside of you and the deep down truth is the answer is never outside of you they're in here when was the last time you actually even concentrated on your heart your heart is the magnet
for all that you desire. When you say, I'd love to have that house, I'd love to have that business, I'd love to have so many more clients, I'd love to have those luxury retreat holidays, I'd love to have that half million in the bank. Where are you basing that from, love?
Now the heart is your centre and it's the one thing that will magnetise more than any other part apart from your mind of what it is you want. Your heart is the frequency that matches your desires. So whenever you actually just sat with your eyes closed for a few moments and just concentrate on your heart, just visualise it, feel it, notice it, it's yours, it's your divine connection.
And in those moments that you slow down and you listen to yourself, you actually make space for those ideas to come into your mind that now you need more than ever. Because in the panic and the fear, you'll never hear yourself. You'll hear everybody else's reasons and you'll send yourself into a deeper level of anxiety and stress.
When really it's about coming back to who you are and quietening down, closing the eyes and going inwards. And even if nothing comes up while you're meditating, believe me, it will start to flow. It comes in. Suddenly you'll notice a sign somewhere. Now, God will give you messages through anything.
whether that's a magazine title, a song, the lyrics in the song, you'll suddenly see a billboard maybe even on a TV program that the word jumps out or the sentence jumps out. These are the messages you need to be actually connecting with and listening to. And these are the reasons I teach what I do because when you can actually trust yourself,
You're a like that bird that lands on the branch that breaks. They don't fall to the floor, do they? Holding on to that broken piece of branch and crush themselves as they hit the ground. They've let go. The minute they sense the branch is breaking, they trust themselves enough to let go. And that's what I'm talking about.
It's understanding and changing direction sometimes when things become too stagnant or they're just not fitting the version of you now. If you're doing the inner growth work, you're constantly changing yourself, your values, your ideas, your beliefs. So you are going to magnetise different things. You're going to have different opportunities come your way and you're going to stretch.
you're possibly going to start to become the version of you that you wanted to. But you've got to have a really strong faith.
Because this is the moment when it feels like everything's falling apart, everything's been taken away, and you can't really react to this 3D version of the world that's going on around you at the minute. That's the past. That's already happened. What we actually see through our eyes is already proven by scientists. It's a microsecond behind, so it's never truth and it's never...
What is really there? And as we know, we only perceive the world we see through our eyes through the beliefs that we have. Your mind will always prove you right. The egodystonic mind will always continue to make sure you only see what you believe and that you're right.
So that isn't truth, that isn't actually helpful when you're a woman building a business and it can be excessively lonely sometimes because you're behind the scenes trying to fit everything in. Before you've taken on a team or if you didn't even need a team, you're the one that's turning into all these different hats from tax to business and then you're realising that most of it is actually social media and you've got suddenly become a creator.
I want you to step back and start to realise that when you go through the moments of what I would call the dip, the madness bit, they're preparing you for the rise. And they don't want you to be stressed and worried. They want you to start to react from the version that you are becoming.
So if you were the millionaire, how would you react? How would you show up? And what would your thoughts be? Would you be in fear of lack or would you be, that's okay, that's emptying, that's going to fill up because you know you're out doing all that you can. But you're not stressing and imagining the worst case scenario. It's not an easy path.
And that's exactly why I do it on my group coaching. Because when we're in a group, women work phenomenally well. Our energies rise together. But most of all, you know you've always got that someone to talk to and compare and you've got that extra support.
And I've noticed whenever I've done one to one coaching and now I've started group coaching, actually the results are phenomenally fast. It's doubled, if not tripled the speed of the results where I would expect and I know where women would be at certain times over an eight week or 12 week program.
The Reconnect Her Fire has purely been created too bring you the version of you that fears not much. She doesn't fear change. She certainly doesn't fear the unknown like she used to. She doesn't need the certainty because she trusts her own decision making. She feels confident and competent to take a next leap of faith and she surrounds herself
with the support and the women who are also doing the same. That's the difference. And if this is relevant to you and you like this content, things are changing. And that includes what I'm doing and how I'm presenting. But please subscribe and hit the like because this helps me see exactly what content you want more of.
But if anything today I've spoken to you about, and if you would like to know more about my coaching program, Reconnect Her Fire, it's for women. It's for women in business who are ready to take that leap, who want more, who know it's ready, it's time. There's no more excuses. You've run out of them. You're fed up hitting the same ceilings, hitting that brick wall, making excuses.
then contact me all details are below. I'm changing in I'm not going to be doing such perfect videos. They aren't aligned to me anymore. I'm more authentic and raw and honest than that. And so I've got to show up differently, that stage is now.
But I'm continuing with the podcast for the time being because I truly believe it's a divine connection that I am being given the guidance to share with you today. So until next time, with love and gratitude.
