Jo (00:01)
Welcome back to Reconnect Her Fire and today I want to talk to you about the three things that you need to start bringing back into your life from childhood and why. I'm Jo, I'm a Wealth and Abundance Mentor for female founders and I help women learn to trust themselves again, shift those beliefs but most of all allow the abundance and wealth to come back into their life.
because women have been very, very much protected from actually owning and having money throughout the centuries. And if you go back to the late 70s, women still had to gain men's permission to even get a mortgage or credit. We've never had the power of owning the money as such.
It's become something we've always had to ask for permission. We've always had to seek and we've had to feel less than ourselves sometimes in asking for it rather than being in control and being the one that's got the money. So you wonder why now business women struggle to show up fully. They're not asking for what they want because if they did and they had the
confidence and they had that self-trust they wouldn't hesitate but more and more times I speak to clients and if I ask them this one simple question and it goes back to childhood to start to realise who they truly were why receiving
it isn't easy for them to ask for their worth or raise their prices in their business or simply just ask for a sale and I know this myself because it kept me back for years it felt icky and you're doing everything in the business but you're just leaving out the most important one and that was asking for what you're worth but if you don't trust yourself
If you don't believe that you're worth what you're charging, that energy is going to be reciprocated by the client who would know. And the belief isn't there because when you buy from a client, when you purchase, you're nine times out of 10 buying from the person.
You're not even buying the product, you're believing how they're making you feel. So there's a definite reason we need to start going back to childhood and looking at more things that you enjoy doing, looking at the fun things that you used to do without expectation, without creating a need for anything. What did you love doing as a child?
Truly ask yourself, go back to the times that you felt free, you didn't have responsibility, you were just being, you were just finding time to be. there wasn't anything else needed apart from you having some fun.
And if you can reenact those things today, you're going to start to lighten up and start to receive in a more natural flowing way. If you're constantly fighting, pushing, hustling and leaning into that masculine energy in desperation for clients or more money, what do you think the energy you're giving out is? It's not appealing. You know you can pick it up. You know damn well.
how awkward that feels when you bump into people that they're just desperately trying to sell you. You run, you know that energy. Even though they might be saying, no I'm not, but you can pick it up. Well that's what you give out the minute you're not relaxing and you're not stepping back and just seeing it as a service you've got to offer. You're offering them value, immense value.
So if you don't believe in yourself and you don't understand what your beliefs are that are running your show, that are bringing you closer or further away from what it is that you're desiring, but bring back some of that joy. Go back. Now I'll give you an example. Mine can just be out in nature, walking around the fields, feeding the ducks, going to the beach.
the simple things in life. But the minute I go there, I'm helping my nervous system reset. I'm taking away fear, anxiety, worry. So when I come back and I'm ready to work, I'm not so much in a need anymore. I'm more in a free flowing at ease state. So I'm not giving out this energy of desperation or need because
Everybody would say they need more money but truly or do you want more money? Needs one of the lowest frequencies and often if we need something we are simply pushing it further away. You need to be in a want state and a I know it's coming to a certain that would be an ideal but it's hard. Women in business is hard.
You're up and down. You never know what the next rollercoaster is going to be. All you're trying to do is fight through each day sometimes. And that's how it can feel. Struggling to find clients or struggling to express and get across your message. Struggling to even get out on social media sometimes. Struggling to just speak about your business in front of friends or family. Because there's still this limitation of there's still this need to ask permission. And that comes back from history.
where we all as women majority always had to ask for money from their husbands they had to ask permission to spend and you still see it today a woman would say I've got to ask my husband because she's still in programs with beliefs and programs aren't hers
Because there's a wealthy woman in a business, she is not going to be asking anybody else but herself. And she will only empower herself to continue that. But if you hear messages from people saying, I need to follow up, I need to ask somebody else, it's simply they are running the program. They need to believe that somebody else is responsible and they don't hold and believe in their power enough at that moment.
And that's what I do, I help change that. I help you see the perspective that you are the powerhouse, you are the creator and you are the one that is destined for that money, for that new client, for that wealth, for that abundance, whatever it is you're after. But so often we've got a question to understand who we are.
Now if you've gone back to childhood and you look at some of the things that you used to enjoy that didn't have an expectation, they didn't have a need, you didn't have to prove yourself, you could just be, then pick another one. And start, you need to have about two or three of these. Maybe you loved being creative. Maybe you loved...
being the leader in your friend group. Maybe you were the one that was the artist or the one that naturally would find the solutions. Start looking at what you were good at without realising it actually had a need later on in life. It was just something you enjoyed doing with friends and you would be out and about. Start bringing those skills back out.
Often in teens and later on we were directed into being told that our value was under a qualification or what job title. So we forgot some of the basics that our lives now we crave more of. We want the freedom. We want that freedom to choose what we do with who we do it with, who we work with, who we hang out with.
who our clients are. We crave the basic things we had as childhood, but we don't implement the same things to get us that same feeling. Because the more that you bring that freedom into your current day now, the more you're likely, you're going to see more of it and ways to achieve that tomorrow and next week. So I want to ask yourself now, where are you asking permission?
for clients for more money. And really dive into this. Don't get the surface answer. Keep digging, keep asking why and why until you get to that core belief. Most of the time clients come when you are in a more relaxed state, you are in a state of gratitude. You're not in that needy desperate energy.
You're confident to express what you do. You show up as the version of you that's achieved your goals because you know your worth. You know how valuable your work is. And so you don't actually have to sell it. You've just got to show up and be the person that you truly are. You're not putting on a mask. You're not trying to hide behind anything. You're just expressing who you are.
That's the confident seller. That's the leader that people want. But you had all these skills through childhood. You've just forgotten them. You now believe that you can't sell. You're not a good enough leader. You don't know enough. And that's utter rubbish. It's... Well, it's rubbish. You know enough.
You're qualified, if not overqualified. You don't need permission from anybody else. And you need to take your energy back and start using it for what it was there for. And you need to drop the shame around selling. I held shame around selling. just didn't, well, it was, I couldn't even explain it at times. It just felt wrong in asking.
But what that was revealing is that I didn't believe in myself enough. I didn't believe I was giving enough value, even though clients were showing it and coming back fantastic results. But if I don't believe in myself, I am not going to get a client that believes in me. So working on who you are, gaining self-trust, so you trust yourself to follow up with clients, you trust yourself.
to just simply turn up every day and get onto social media. Be the version of you that holds the dream, not the version now that isn't receiving the money that you want, that isn't seeing the results that you want. You've got to step up. You don't have to do it alone. That's the difference.
That's what I created Reconnect Her Fire for. It's for women who want to empower themselves, that want to trust their own decisions. They don't want to be seeking everybody else's advice all the time. They want to feel confident in who they are. They want to show up as the best version and they want to stand in that energy of knowing they're enough as they are now. That's the difference.
Because when you stand in that confident self-love, self-trusting energy, that version of you that knows she's enough, guess what? The world is going to give it to you back.
it's going to reflect it back. You're going to see opportunities that you know that you match, that bring you the bigger opportunities. You're going to be now frequency aligned to the people that can bring you the next level, that can give you the new ideas, that can be as creative and dynamic as you wish them to be. But if you don't believe you can, you won't.
You know this because that's where you are at the moment and there's no shame in that. There's nothing wrong in that because they are just conditions and beliefs and stories we hold in our mind. And as we know, our subconscious mind is running 95 % of your behaviours and actions every day and it's powerful. You're not going to override it just by simply consciously saying a few affirmations. Doesn't happen like that.
Because you'll go back to that old pattern, you'll step back into the version of you that feels confident being comfortable. That doesn't have to show up, that doesn't have to be seen or rejected or criticised or mocked.
Now something I was told the other day and I truly now get this and I've heard it for years that Instagram and TikTok, they say do not use unless it's for business only. Get rid of your friends and family. And I was like, maybe not. But now I get it. The reason being is because of your family and friends watching, you are unconsciously afraid to show up as you would do if you knew that people were
aware of you.
Now I want you to think about that. If you knew your direct friends and family weren't tuning in, mocking, judging, criticising or not even making comments because when you notice that your friends don't make comments, you start belittling yourself and knocking your own confidence thinking you're not good enough. So if you removed all of those out the way and you use social media for exactly what it is, your business showing up
daily then guess what you'd have a different outcome I can promise that
If you did for the next 30 or 60 days, you showed up every day on social media as if nobody else was watching and this was just your own diary without caring if people liked the content or not, without caring about the likes or, you know, anything about the algorithm. I'm fed up with the whole lot. I'll be absolutely honest. I don't want to know about the algorithm. I want to connect to the people that need to hear me that I can help.
And sometimes you've got to just push everything else out the way. You've got to speak up. You've got to be a bit bold. You're going to get judged. You're going to get judged whatever you do. So let go of the judgment. That's not what we're here for. You're here to help others, to serve others. And you're here to help yourself. Feel joy, feel abundance, feel the wealth that's naturally yours. You are that.
So go back to childhood, look at the things that you love doing, bring them into today and start asking yourself, what do I need today? Is it time alone? Is it time just to go for a quick walk? Is it time to be quiet and to listen to what I need? Maybe it's to do some journaling and question yourself. Find out why you're holding back.
And ask yourself, what help can I get? We weren't supposed to do this on our own. I never achieved any of this until I start getting help. In actual fact, nobody that is achieving has done it on their own. They have to do it with somebody and other people. That is how we learn. That is how we grow.
But money and wealth and abundance and the feeling of having it is prosperity of that spending as I call circulating money is understanding it's all available to you and you and your beliefs and they weren't necessarily your fault in any way because women have been given
circumstances, beliefs to say they don't deserve or they don't feel confident in asking permission for money and that is what keeps women from leading. We got told at the Global Women Summit last week and there was like 600 women and a lot of top investors there.
that still in this world, but particularly this country, there's still only 1-2 % of female women will investors actually invest in. Now, if that isn't telling you how weak women are appearing of holding money, well it doesn't have to be that way. It's just a belief that you hold, and several probably, that you still have
that give you the perspective and vision that you're not worthy of more. If you removed those, guess what happens? You can see a whole new perspective and you'll see the opportunities and you'll see the ideas, you'll see the solutions, you'll feel empowered, you'll feel capable, you'll feel more confident to take the next step.
But if you don't trust that decision, you're going to step back and be comfortable for the rest of your life. And if that's where you want to be, but you won't. You're sat here watching this. So that's not the person you want to be, is it?
So step back down and start questioning why. Whose permission do you have to ask? And if you could let go of it today, where would you stand up and be your full self? The most confident version of you. The one that believed her voice mattered, that she was held, heard, and she was seen fully for who she truly is. Because you are that magnificent one.
So say it, say it in the mirror, do the mirror work. Do whatever it is that you need to do to shift that identity. If you need help, this is exactly what I teach in Reconnect Her Fire. It's a women's group programme we do weekly and we get through and find out and discover exactly what beliefs.
We get into the identity of the version of you that already holds your dreams and desires and we start implementing weekly what it is you need and you will get there. If you want to know more details, comment fire and I'll send you. But if you enjoyed this kind of content.
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