Jo (00:01)
lies you tell yourself just to keep you in comfort. Welcome back to Reconnect to Fire and today I want to talk to you about what we all do to avoid that uncomfortable spot, the stretch. We all manifest, we all call in what we want.
But there's a time and a place where we get given the opportunity for that manifesting to happen, for that desire, that dream to come true, don't we? But we stay stuck, you stay in fear, you start overthinking, you allow yourself to listen to all the lies in your head. Those thoughts, they're not yours.
Remember, those thoughts are just old patterns, old stories, old limiting beliefs that you were given that kept you safe.
But what the hell are you doing with them now? And the reason I'm saying this is we can tiptoe around this day in, day and night, can't we? We can say, yeah, we know what we need to do, but we don't want to do it. But what are you actually doing to actually overcome this? Because sitting there alone trying to figure it out isn't actually helping you. It's just prolonging the suffering, as I call it, because that's what it is. And the more we believe the lie.
The more we don't trust ourselves, the more we go into despair, the more excuses we make up, the more lies we hear racing around our mind, and the more we keep asking people that are not even fit to answer the questions because they've never been in the position that you're looking to stretch into. And you'll go back and listen to people that aren't even trying to grow, they're not even interested in creating their own business, they're not bothered about expansion.
But you'll go back to those people and those friends because that's more comfortable. And I hate to say it, but that's the truth. When people go back to friends that aren't doing what they want, or they're not on the same path, and that's fine, that's fair enough. But you're cheating yourself out of that opportunity. You're leaving the money on the table, you're refusing your own growth.
And then you're blaming everything else around you and circumstances and people, and that isn't the truth at all. In actual fact, you're just avoiding the stretch. The stretch is bloody uncomfortable. I am not going to sit here and tell you it's not, but it's also the expansion growth that gives you the space, the capacity to actually then hold what it is that you want.
I don't care if it's more money, if it's more opportunities, more creative ideas, if you want more freedom, you want better relationships, you want more connections, you want more sales. It comes down to the capacity of what you can hold at this moment.
So that really horrible feeling inside that makes you almost wake up at three o'clock in the morning, or you want to be sick with it because you know what you need to do. You don't need to get told, but you're still looking for everybody else to give you those answers. So today I'm going to go into why we do this, why we repeat the same behaviours every day, why being comfortable.
Becomes our security net, which actually becomes our prison in the end. And that is where I come in because so many of my clients come to the point that they can't even see the wood for the trees anymore. They've lost hope, they've lost so much self trust and confidence in themselves that they're too scared to be seen to be making that mistake or taking the wrong pathway. And actually, that's the exact pathway.
That they needed to take at the beginning, but they've delayed it six months, a year, three years, five years. We don't actually do anything different until we make ourselves step out of the comfort zone. That means get your ass off that sofa, stop tiptoeing around what you've been doing the last few days, get back into a routine, get your morning routine back.
Start claiming you, start taking your power back, stop giving it out to everybody else and making excuses because that feels easier.
Yeah, I'm not here to tiptoe with you. I'm here to pull you into that next leap of faith. You came here and you know damn well you're meant for more. You know it. You know you're different from the people around you. You know that you crave something, but you're just not quite sure maybe what it is yet. And that's fine. It's that feeling that's going to start giving you the steps, the ladder to start climbing out of where it is you are now.
It's not easy. But it is easier when you get support, when you get help, and you actually have somebody who's been there before. I spent years with my mind in absolute lockdown of I can't do it, I'm not good enough, I'm just never going to achieve that success. You're just gonna have to shut up, Jo, and put up.
You're just not clever enough, and who the hell's gonna listen to you? And that's the biggest load of lies that raced around my mind. But they kept me stuck. They kept me stuck in relationships which were bloody toxic and destroying me. They kept me in roles that I outlived years ago, but I stayed there because that's all I felt I was worthy of. I didn't actually raise my standards because I didn't believe I was worthy of them. So how can you relate this to yourself and start to see you are making
Making choices every day that are impacting you today, tomorrow, next week, next year, and all it takes is one small change, one small difference in the morning that can actually impact your whole day, week, month, year, five years. Who wouldn't want that?
I've studied and trained in so many modalities and so many therapies, and I've taught tens of thousands and coached tens of thousands of women, and it all comes down to the same thing. They don't trust themselves, they don't take that action step, and they fear the judgment from family, friends, or they don't have the voice to speak their needs and their desires, and actually how they feel, because they fear they're going to get judged again, they're going to get
Criticised, they're going to get told, that's impossible, and they're going to be put back down to where they know they already think they believe they deserve to be, which is utter rubbish. Utter rubbish. How many times do you tell yourself, Do you actually know what goes on in your mind? Be honest, do you actually know your thoughts are? Are they empowering you? Are they kicking your ass to do these things? Obviously not, or are they just repeating the same lies of well, it's too.
Scary, I can't do that. my god, what happens if it goes wrong? I don't know enough yet. I don't know enough of the tech to do that, and I need the support. So until I can get the support, until I feel ready, until everything's perfectly in place, I'm not going to take that leap. Well, life doesn't work like that. I'm sorry to say, it does if you want to stay where you are, if you don't want to improve your wealth, your health, your mentality, your circle, your environment.
your freedom that you say you crave for, that peace of mind that you keep asking for more of, the universe is constantly giving you what you want.
So I'm to give you one of the biggest reasons why you'll want to make this change. That anxiety inside, that feeling of dread, is only going to get bigger and bolder. And you can't go backwards, by the way, because once you start this journey, you are forever moving forward for the good reasons, because it's going to bring you more of what you want.
But every time you take that leap of faith, it will reveal who you truly are. You'll shatter those limiting beliefs that told you you weren't good enough. You'll let go of that knowing of it's not possible for you because you'll start to see a whole new perspective. Limitations won't appear as they used to. Yes.
It takes courage and it takes determination. But you wouldn't even be listening to this now if your mission wasn't to be here right now. I can tell you that now. I can tell you through your own divine connection. You are listening now because you have got a higher calling. You've been constantly questioning this for way too long.
You've had that underlining knowing that you're meant for more, but you're almost embarrassed and asking for permission to reach into it because you're too afraid to be seen fully. Maybe it's on social media, maybe you're not showing up the way you would love to. And last week I went to a session with John Lee.
And it was a two-day training event, and especially on how AI is affecting and coming into the whole world in the next three to five years, but how drastically different we are all going to be able to either work, bring money in, take ourselves to where we want to go, either by using AI.
Or allowing everyone else to use AI for us. Now, what I mean is things are changing rapidly, and this is a year of the horse, and it is a ferocious energy of charging forwards towards the dreams, towards the goals, towards you gaining whatever it is you want.
And here I want to reinforce when we get given and when we start manifesting, we get given the ideas, the opportunities to manifest what it is we want, you're halting, you're not listening, you're staying almost stuck with the old program.
AI is great in some ways because it's actually showing us we we can do more things but it can also I believe destroy some of the self trust. If you're constantly asking AI, for every piece of information and you're constantly using it in a way that even I noticed I was months ago. Every time I wanted to make a decision I would clarify with Chat GPT. Well no no wonder I started getting the fear and the doubt rise again.
Because I wasn't listening and tuning into who I was. My truth.
So it's noticing the patterns that you're holding inside of you, your thoughts. Are they productive? Are they bringing you a step closer today to making that sale? To connecting to that new client, to stepping into that idea that's been racing around your mind. Or are you stuck? Are you feeling the fear? Are you feeling there's a reason or something needs to change before you can take that action step?
You don't quite trust yourself. And that's okay. That's where I've been over and over again. And that's where all of us end up because that's just part of being human.
But what makes the difference is when you start to notice it, when you start to actually analyze that voice, that inner critic, when you start to pick it apart and say, Who was that? Whose voice does that remind me of? And you observe it instead of letting it dictate what's going to happen in your next action or your next reaction.
Because if your action steps aren't moving you forward, and because your energy, you're gonna stay stuck. In other words, you're gonna feel stagnant, and stagnant means you rot, that means the fear rises, you start feeling depressed, you start over-analysing things and overthinking to the point that you just totally destroy all that confidence you'd built up previously. And it's nonsense, it doesn't have to be what you currently think it is. That's not your truth.
Your truth is that first voice that you hear when you ask that internal question. And how many times do you shut it down, push it out the way, don't trust it, sounds ridiculous, can't do that, and then you start going into that overwhelm, looking, asking everybody else, trying to find the answer outside of you, and end up back where you were.
It's almost deja vu, isn't it? It's almost getting to the point that you're getting so fed up listening to it, you want to end up outside screaming. But you end up getting more anger, and there's a lot of grief underneath that anger that's starting to rise. It's starting to reveal some of the emotions that you've been trying to push down. They start bubbling up like the bloody volcano. And then you're back to square one. And it's a cycle that goes around and around.
And you're still making the same observations, you're still making the same actions that create the same outcomes, and you're still letting that mind roll around and confirm even more that you just don't trust yourself, so you're going to look to everyone else to give you your answers. Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could just sit down, close your eyes, let the world outside just calmly slow down a bit?
And you could just be
Yeah, because a human is human being, isn't it? It's not a human doing. So a human being is just be. And what does be mean? That means just sit down, shut up, shut your eyes, and just enjoy the moment. And it's so easy not to do.
Do you know we've been overcomplicating things for most of our life? We've been taught that things have got to be extremely hard or they're out of our reach or we don't quite fully understand them. So we just don't even start. We give in, don't we? We just let go. When really most of the things that actually can help us the most are simple things that are simple not to do.
But just remember, you're a human being. The more you be, the more you slow down, the more space you give your mind to actually process what's going on, and the more you're present with yourself, the more you'll start to notice things will start to feel a little bit easier. The overthinking starts to come down a bit. Maybe it's up here. Maybe you're noticing it will start to come down.
Maybe your sleep will get a little bit better. Maybe your eating habits might improve as well. Maybe you're eating erratically, or you're just eating the foods you know aren't nourishing. So your body, your mind does need good nourishing foods for it to work. You need more fluid, maybe.
But there are things that you definitely know that you are probably in denial of because it's easier to be comfortable than it is to be stretched. But, and the big but is
You want that stretch because you want that leap of faith, but you want somebody to give you permission. Well, give yourself permission. Stop waiting for somebody else to knock the door and say it's fine, you can do that now. You can speak your truth, you can get onto social media, you can expand your business, you can grow your business, you can start that business, you can live that dream. You can stop doing everything for everybody else and stop.
Living through their dreams and start living yours. Whoever is in your mind racing around telling you it's not possible for you is a lie, an absolute lie. You are born to be abundant, you are born and you are created to have all of your desires, and only you hold your dreams, by the way. They might sound familiar to other people's, but you have a specific dream and a desire, and it's your right to go for it.
And if this resonates with you and you would love more support and you want to join a free masterclass, well, I'm going to break down overwhelm, fear, and we're going to start to see how we can start processing our mind in a more effective and positive way, then DM me either on here or on social media and just put the word fire because my business is called reconnect her fire, and it's when we reconnect our spark to ourselves that we can start processing.
What we want easier. But it's a free masterclass, it's going to be held in a week's time, and I can't wait to see you there. So DM me and I'll send you all the details. But until next time, dare yourself to come out of that comfort zone and don't let fear control that decision today.
