Jo (00:01)
All the fires in my belly this morning I've woken up. Welcome back to Reconnect Her Fire. And I'm Jo and I'm identity and self trust coach for women. And I've woken up this morning, I can't tell you with an absolute belly full of fire that I cannot just sit with anymore. I've created a masterclass. It's free. It's online tonight. And I only advertised it last week.
And you might resonate with this or not if you've ever done one of these and you've put them out there. Now, I haven't put adverts out, but I've put myself out there to do this free masterclass. And yeah, I left it a bit late, I believe, but also I wanted to test the water.
But so far only one person signed up and I thought, okay, that's fine. Universal sent me one. That's good enough. Because whenever you start something new, your expectations of having the whole room filled aren't exactly reality. Unless you're really visualising and you're really marketing and you're out there actively bringing people into that room and they've signed a dotted line. Because that isn't how life works. But my God, what this brought out of me this morning.
is that I got straight onto social media without a care. I didn't actually have a plan of what I was going to say, but I'm going to give you an idea today. Something inside of me has always been burning and it's just got louder and louder and brighter and brighter. And it's this I will be on stages.
big stages. Now that is terrifying for me. I grew up absolutely full of self doubt. I had no self worth. I didn't trust myself at all. I didn't believe in myself. The thought of even speaking in a classroom is what got me kicked out of the top level English class at school to be put in the bottom level and actually have the humiliation of my bloody parents being brought into school.
to be told that I'm going to be put down to the lowest grade. So there was a lot of shame on that, the fact that I couldn't stand up in class, that I couldn't be seen to even read out of a book. So throughout my life, I've done pretty much everything I can to avoid, be seen, to show up, to speak up, to speak out.
But through the 12 years of being within the NHS, that changed dramatically because obviously I'm up presenting, I'm doing courses, I'm holding women's groups, I'm doing all kinds. So that confidence started to creep back in. But it wasn't until five years ago that I made the life-changing decision.
of life wasn't where I wanted it to be anymore. I'd had enough. I deserved better. I was so unhappy in every aspect of my life that I decided to just let the whole lot go. And what does that mean? That means I walked and gave notice on my NHS career. I came home and decided that I was going to sell the house and then I decided actually everything around me needs to go because I'm still not happy and I've got a design and
create basically manifest my life the way I want it and if I don't try this I am not going to be one of those at the age the thought of actually being 70 years old being told you could bloody retire and
That's it. Then you're supposed to live on the pittance that would have been my pension, even though the NHS did have an incredible pension, if you started 40 years ago maybe. But I'd only been in it 12 years, so it wasn't worth what people were making out.
But also I've never fitted in. I've never fitted into the norm. I followed the crowds because I didn't trust myself. I followed what other people were doing because I didn't believe in myself back then. And I didn't trust myself to make a decision because I was so fearful of being judged or being humiliated or being abandoned that I didn't know which direction to take. But when I got into these damn toxic bloody relationships and they went on and every single one just got worse.
until eventually I had the breakdown five years ago and went, I'm done with this. That's when this spark started erupting and I kept it quiet. I followed the path. I was getting guided, divinely guided to read these books in order and then start the hypnotherapy and the EFT and to be more spiritual and to be awoken myself.
and actually speak about it, which was the biggest thing for me. Saying the word God was not in my vocabulary, I can tell you, all of my life. Even though my mum believed in it, I didn't. It was something that repulsed me and I don't still understand why so much. But anyway, let's get past that part because today I have so much faith, I have so much self-trust.
that I don't actually have the fear of being seen regardless or speaking my truth regardless and I'm not here to people please anymore. In actual fact I want the people that...
I repel to basically bugger off. You're wasting my energy, my time and I need you to move out the way because I'm actually here on a mission. I know this for certain to help women rise to for them to be up speaking on the stages to be up helping other people, women, men rise, whatever they're here for. But for them to stand in their truth, to trust themselves.
to listen to their own guidance and act on it, for them to speak out what they feel without fear of abandoning themselves.
Because every time we don't speak up, we abandon ourselves, we tell ourselves we're not trustworthy. So you wonder why you find it so bloody hard to do anything. Because if you don't trust yourself, you're not going to lead. And when you don't trust in self and you don't believe in yourself, you don't look for opportunities. Your mind will literally focus on all the things that make sure that you don't rise, that you don't get that wealth, that you don't get that fulfillment, that you
whole purpose isn't true to you because you're still following what other people have given you as their idea of what your life should look like. We are as women conditioned, programmed to be good girls, to be quiet, to fit in, to just observe and get on with it. Not to speak out, not to stand up.
not to stand up to yourself. We've been almost invisible for far too long. And you know exactly what I mean because inside of you, you're terrified probably of coming out and speaking your truth. You're going to upset your family. My God, what will your friends think of you? But the longer this feeling goes on inside you, by the way, because it doesn't go away. It's your purpose. It's your soul.
It just gets louder and louder and louder until eventually you can't help it, but you're going to have to speak up. But maybe it's easier to do it with other people, other women that understand the awakening, that have gone through the process, that can hold you, can lean on. You've got someone to come into a group of other like-minded women because then the energy is electric. But only that your own consciousness is expanding rapidly because you're not trying to fit in.
anymore. You're not trying to please everybody else and help their dreams be fulfilled but ignore your own. The funny thing is my energy is only going to resonate with those that need it from now on. I've almost done a massive clearing and I think I've been tiptoeing even the last year.
I speak my truth but there's been something else underneath that I wasn't even sure of but the clarity that came up the last few weeks but this morning's was so immense that now I'm like good because these women that I'm going to work with have had a rough ride they have not gone through life on a pampered stall believe me you've had
the feelings that I would have gone through, I can pretty much guarantee because anybody that is designed, is purposely came to this planet, that has been given that desire and dream, has had to go through everything to understand why they're even talking about what they're going to be speaking to other women about. You can't awaken women if you haven't had the shit.
If you haven't been dragged through life with so much despair or fear or worry or disbelief in yourself, how could you stand up and awaken other people to their future, to their...
possible outcomes to their dreams, their desires, if you haven't been through it yourself. Passion and purpose comes from the raw inside of you that is itching to come out. But you're fearful, you're scared, you're suppressed, you're not actively being yourself because it's more comfortable for you to stay where you are.
You don't want to be judged. You don't want other people to criticise. You don't want your own family to look at you in a way that you felt throughout your childhood maybe. The bane's too much. The shame's still there. And actually you're going to do everything you can avoid it, but you'll never. That feeling, that voice inside of you, by the way, just gets louder. You can't avoid it. You will not avoid it, but you can.
embrace it and what it will bring if you do it properly is a lot of fulfillment, a lot of joy, a lot of wealth because the women that will be rising are going to need the wealth and that is how you can rise even faster because the more wealth you have the more support you have the more opportunities that arise.
So it's never about you coming from the identity that you're sat here listening or stood or driving, whatever you're doing. The identity that you're currently in isn't the identity of the version of you stood there on the stage doing what you're here for. Because you've not been shown or guided or given
the information that your identity can change rapidly for the better whenever you choose to do it. We've all been conditioned that once we have an identity, that's it, you're stuck with it.
And that is what keeps you in the fear loop of how do I even do anything else? Because that's what I was like when I was in the NHS. I didn't believe I was qualified enough to do anything else. I thought that was it. I was almost, my God, if this job ended, what would I do? I didn't have another vocation I didn't have.
in my mind, anything else that I could jump into. So scarcity kept me in that limited amount of money that I earned. It kept me in a role that was depleting my abilities, not enhancing them. It kept me with the fear of the unknown, because that's the problem. Most women and men...
as well but women mostly have this massive fear of the unknown they almost want that certainty and that's the way our brains work you want certainty of what's going to happen next you want almost somebody else to take the responsibility
because it's often we ask everybody else when we're in fear, when we're in lack, we will ask everybody else. If we don't trust ourselves, we're going to look externally for advice. And there's nothing wrong with that because it's good to get other people's points of view. The difference I'm speaking about as if you are still asking people, but you can't...
even make a decision from what they've given you and have they actually been where you want to be? Are they world leaders? Are they speakers on stages across the world? Are these people who you would love and adore and look up to? Or are they just your friends that sit in the same environments talking the same?
repeating the same habits and behaviours, giving you an opinion because their own fear is now projecting onto you. And this is what we tend to do, we get comfortable, we don't expand the friendships, we don't expand the community that we're in, we don't expand the new environments as we will have to do.
We stay in the same area and expect different results. Well, that's a bit of a side of madness, isn't it? If you're doing the same thing and expect something different to happen, where does that get you? Let's be honest, really honest with yourself, because I'm brutally honest. I waken people because I can actually see what their blocks are. I can see what they're not seeing themselves because that's why I do the work I do. I get my fulfillment because I love watching women rise. I love seeing them realise they're
worth more they have more in life and they can create it themselves that's the magic and not only does it affect them it affects a whole family and all the people around them so you are expanding this wonderful ability not just to the person you're working with but everybody else I'm not gonna say it's gonna be easy right
It's going to be a journey and that's what life's about. You can't avoid the journey. You can hide in your house all you like but you'll get so uncomfortable and your anxiety will rise to the stage that you will have to do something. Why are we waiting?
because we don't know what's out there. We don't know if anybody can actually hear us and we don't understand what we have to do next. And I wish I was about five years ago because when I had my awakening, I was completely isolated. It felt like a roller coaster of the unknown because instantly I was into reading books which I hadn't done. They weren't your average books. These books are all about manifestation. They're all about enlightenment. They are about universe. They're about God.
something I'd never read, had an interest in reading or even the time but suddenly I stopped watching TV overnight and within that week I hadn't gone back to it. I realised how poisoning and how detrimental TV programming was. It kept me in fear, kept me loops of shame and guilt and worry. That was the whole point of it. But until you come away from something you can't see the light. If you're constantly in the dark you'll never see the light.
And it's the same as if you're constantly in the light. You can't appreciate the dark sometimes. So there's no right and wrong in this. It's just about you exploring and being true to yourself and coming home and saying to you, is there more to my life? What would it look like if I could have all the dreams come true? What about that big, beautiful house? Whatever it is you're after, that opportunity, that new role?
That position on that stage leading other people to their dreams, awakening them to their own wealth, their possibility of they're the creator, they're not here just to suffer or to follow a plan they've been programmed to believe it's theirs. The thoughts you have, I can honestly say, 98 % are lies.
they're not yours because if that inner critic were speaking so positively and giving you that push and giving you all that you wanted to actually hear and that encouragement, you wouldn't even be sat here now. You'd be too busy travelling the world on stages doing whatever it is you wanted to do. You'd be creating.
but we always get shown what we need to hear, see and that's the divine messaging. You've got to start noticing. It's not a coincidence, it's just a guided path that you've now asked for it to be open.
See what we tend to do as humans, and this is how our minds work, we have an idea, don't we? We have a dream, we desire, and then we go, well, go on then, give it to me, how do I do it? And then suddenly nothing really appears. You're sat in the same job or you're sat in the same house, you're talking the same conversations, you're in the same environment, you're driving the same car, in the same roads to work, you're not even going a different route, you're just doing, repeating. And that's how your subconscious mind works. And that is 95 % of the day of what you do. Your subconscious
95 % only your prefrontal cortex can run 5 % in other words you're just running from programs you're repeating patterns behaviors habits you're speaking the same the next day and the next day until you become consciously aware of what is being spoken in your mind of what your inner critic is really actually telling you
and why you're doing it. That's self-awareness. We don't grow without it. There's no other way to get around it. Understanding your values, the identity that you hold now, that maybe you're holding on to far too tight because that's all you believe you're worthy and can do. That's what I did.
That was me when I was nannying and it was me when I was doing my NHS and health visiting. I held on to that identity. That's who I was. I believed it. I didn't know any different. So why could I even see something different? But sometimes the world has to be shaken up. It has to be rocked. has to be there has to be something that makes you question what you're doing.
Now most of us wait till we hit that brick wall, we have the absolute breakdown. Well, no, I did.
Doesn't mean you got to though. That's what I'm here for. I'm here to awaken you before you get to that breakdown. You don't need that breakdown. The breakdown was just pure ignorance because I didn't listen and see the red messages and act on them in those relationships. I chose to ignore them. But the questioning I had at the end of it was why did I ignore it? So my question to you is why are you ignoring that inner voice now? Does it need to come and hit a brick wall? Do you really need to get to that stage or can you start to investigate it at least, acknowledge it, welcome it?
and
give it a bit of love. It's a part of you that's asking you to be there. Not everywhere else, just to come home and be you, just to sit with that. Do you do meditation? Do you actually just shut your eyes five minutes and just listen?
Just notice your feet touching the floor. Notice how you sit or how your body contacts whether it's the bed or the seat, how you are supported. Come back to who you are. You'll never get answers outside of you to the extent the inside will give you the exact plan, the pathway.
but only comes when you take that first leap, when you take and you actually say to the universe, to God, whatever you want to call it, I do want something different. I'm willing to have a look at this. I'm willing to try and I'm willing to be guided and I'm asking what it is I need to do now.
then you'll get given. You'll get given. You'll see it on messaging. Whatever you use as a platform, you'll start to see messages that you might have to re-evaluate and look and they might start repeating. They're the ones you need to grasp onto. They're the ones you need to take notice. That is your message. No, it's not a bloody coincidence. No, it's not just a, wow, look at that. It's just come up because the algorithm. No.
These things will stand out because they will be so different from what you are currently available to listen to. I want you to take note of these. These are your pathway. And if you dare to take one step, one step, you'll get gifted the second and then you'll get shown the third.
And if you continue to brave, to be brave, to actually hold yourself accountable and say, I can do this, the magic of what life can be will start to reveal itself. And it becomes something that you can't ignore anymore. And you won't want to go back. Yes, it does means things change around you. They have to. The identity of who you are now is not the identity of you that stands in the wealth and everything that you desire.
They are two different. And that can feel really scary. And also your brain will try to pull you back to the comfortable zone. Your brain wants to do things easy and it wants you to just be comfortable. But comfort can actually be the poison that we choose to drink ourselves.
And you know this because the anxiety's risen, the questioning's more, and this year particularly for women, the energy and the wisdom that we are consciously around at the minute, and I say this with love, is actually there to kick your ass off that sofa.
out that house and start meeting like-minded people to start questioning. Get curious, go back to a child. We aren't grown-ups by the way, we're just children within a case of an adult and whatever brings you joy will be the way you'll find yourself even quicker. We're supposed to have more fun and lightness in our everyday. No we are, so doing things that you love can be easy.
They could be reading a book, having a bath, playing some music, having a dance, going for a lovely walk in nature, meeting up with some friends for coffee. They don't have to be expensive, but they do have to be something out of the norm every day that you're making that effort to actually say, is what brings me joy. And I don't mean sat around with your friends gossiping. That is the most low level negative nonsense. You need to knock that off the wall.
I did that for years. It will keep you in a low frequency of fear, despair and you will not be awokend. Awakend? Awokend? Whatever it's called. But I have a word to say awokened and I don't know why. It keeps coming up. I know I want to say awaken.
But Awoken is what I get channeled to say. So for whoever needs to hear that, I trust it. Yes, I do get divinely guided. I do get the gifts. I do actually have the ability to tune in and just let whatever comes through me to be vocal. That's the joy of what I do. I do have faith. I meditate deeply. I trust.
Not only myself, but I trust what's happening even if it's a bloody shit show. Even if this 3D world is falling to bits and there isn't the money in the bank and there isn't the actual house here anymore.
I totally trust the process because whenever we level up, whenever we move to the next identity,
And we choose to, by the way, we ask to, we choose to, and we take those daring steps, supported, because you'll find groups. This is the great thing about it. You'll start to look for those women or men groups that can support you to get to that next level, that are already probably at that next level. You'll unconsciously start to look and suddenly they're appearing. You'll decide, I need to do that.
And if they scare you a bit, they're the ones you go in first. Otherwise you delay your process. And if your any think like me and I'm not patient and everyone tells me, you need to be more patient. You need to sit and wait. And even in the spiritual world, you're constantly here. Have patience. Yes. Have patience on what you're manifesting. It's yours already. It will come. But my God, do not have patience on acting on what you have been given or down.
what ever is around you
weird I've just said the word down and that wasn't my word so again that is what channeling is often about you hear words that don't make sense in the sentence or the context that you're trying to say
But I trust it. I'm not going to cut this out. I'm not going to edit that out. This is real. This is not some speech I've written out and decided to preach to you. This is part of a download that's coming through me and has since this morning that I need to share with you and I choose to. But I hope it awakens and gives some of you that lift or that kick to start questioning your life more.
to start really putting in perspective what lights you up? Do you go around people's houses or you meet up in the pub or you go to places and you come away feeling absolutely buzzing? Or do you come away feeling heavy and if you cut those out and change them a bit, just chop them up a little bit and move them about, you might find you'll get given the messages that you need to hear quicker when you make a
positive decision. It's only possible if you do it by the way. No one's going to come and hold your hand and drag you out the door and say I'm going to take you here. You might have a friend that does it. I did in the beginning. When I trained.
in hypotherapy, a friend introduced me to sound baths and introduced me to the EFT and other things and she did literally bring me into those worlds where before they weren't in my world, they weren't in my energy and I didn't have an understanding and I'm so grateful for that. So if you do suddenly get people that come into your life that open a new door for you, say yes.
Don't knock it. You don't have to understand it. Just say yes. That is being divinely guided. That is your angels. That is your soul telling you the next step. You don't have to believe it. You don't have to trust it at the minute. You just need to try it. That's it. So whatever you've got out of today's podcast, I really do hope it makes some kind of sense to you.
This isn't for everybody. I'm not here for everybody. I'm not here to people please everyone anymore. I'm here for the selected few that actually do need to hear the message and to take that bold step and to help themselves a little bit more today because what you do today, you'll bring in tomorrow. What you concentrate on today, you'll create more of. If you're fearful today, you'll be more fearful tomorrow and you'll find more things tomorrow to be fearful for because your mind will latch onto them. The same as if you want more positivity.
in your life if you want less anxiety and fear and stress start noticing the good things around you have a bit more gratitude for what you do have and appreciate what is going on around you and then start to do one or two things a day that you love to do for yourself and then in a week or month tell me that you haven't completely changed in who you are and what you believe is possible for you but until next week have a fantastic week
and message me anything that you want that you will find relevant or you want more information on or you want me to talk about let me know. Subscribe because you don't want to miss out because every week I come on here and I help you discover more about yourself and also you can give yourself permission to find out who you are.
Because we've all been masked, we've all been conditioned and it's time that we took the masks off and it's time we took that conditioning to a side to see actually who's the real me and what is possible for me.
much love and gratitude.
